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Anonymous
Sat Aug 03 2024

Asking for dating advice

What advice would you give to someone who has been single for seven years or more and is just now getting back into the dating world? What are the do's and don'ts for the first conversation over the phone or in text messages?

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Izrael's avatar
Izrael

Express your needs and intentions very clearly and encourage the other person to do the same ... Nothing worse than wasting time with a wrong person. God bless you

Sun Aug 04 2024
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Anonymous

@Izrael thank you so much for responding to my post. This is helpful. Yeah, I don’t want to waste my time with the wrong person either. Thank you and God bless you too! I pray you find your wife soon 🙏🏾

Sun Aug 04 2024
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Izrael's avatar
Izrael

@Laura Thank you. Likewise sister. May the Lord give you a husband who will love you like Christ loves the church

Sun Aug 04 2024
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Anonymous's avatar
Anonymous

@Izrael you are welcome and thank you!

Sun Aug 04 2024
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Fiona's avatar
Fiona

Just start you will learn as you go along and remember you are valuable.

Sat Aug 03 2024
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Anonymous

@Fiona thank you so much for responding back! Thank you for the reminder that I am valuable!!

Sat Aug 03 2024
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Cameron

Hey @Laura 👋 I've been single for 8 years. Do's would be to keep calm and when you feel deflated, go for a walk and prayer. Don'ts would be don't send too many emoji's and don't send "x" in your messages for quite far in. Look for a video convo first, but it's not essential, just advisable. Then simple things like try not to off load all your deep thoughts or struggles early on, it's too much 😅 God bless 🙏

Sat Aug 03 2024
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Anonymous's avatar
Anonymous

@Cameron thank you Cameron for responding to my post. This is very helpful, not to go too deep.

Sat Aug 03 2024
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Anonymous's avatar
Anonymous

Be patient. I've had long periods of non-dating myself, and I know how tempting it is to rush things with the first person that "feels right."

Sat Aug 03 2024
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Anonymous

@Joseph thank you for responding! God bless you!

Sat Aug 03 2024
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Genesis's avatar
Genesis

Hey @Laura an honest question from a beautiful lady. I think we’re all trying to figure this out but as @Luke mentioned, be yourself and be open to communicate. The one whom God has chosen will accept you for you 🙏🏾

Sat Aug 03 2024
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Anonymous

@Genesis thank you so much for responding. I wish I had asked this question to the community first before diving into this "getting to know people" phase. It brings me peace when you mentioned that the one God has chosen will accept me for who I am.

Sat Aug 03 2024
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Anonymous

@Genesis you are such beautiful woman of God!!

Sat Aug 03 2024
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Leo

Maybe @Laura ,we just need to do the honest communication, do the honest gesture, honest body language, honest conversation, also about sharing our thoughts, our point of view, Sometimes we try to hide something somehow to pleasure our relationships, and that only cost our time to getting know each other, Like @Luke said, just be ourself

Sat Aug 03 2024
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Anonymous

@Leo thank you for responding to this post, I tried to be myself and being honest had gotten me no where.

Sat Aug 03 2024
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Anonymous's avatar
Anonymous

Hi Laura, great question. Personally, I think is good to ask God to show you the condition of your heart. Ask Him to show you if there is any hurt or offense, on the inside. And if there is, ask Him to heal you. After this, when you start talking to your date be positive, listen to what they have to say. But at the same time, guard your heart (don't overshare). And also, don't speak about an ex-partner or a negative experience. I hope this helps!

Sat Aug 03 2024
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Anonymous

Wow! Thank you so much for responding! I felt like you prophetically spoke into my recent situation with what just happened. I asked God to heal my heart and went through the process of forgiving the other person. I overshared, and I asked about his ex-wife. Now I think I see where I went wrong. We had such a deep four-hour conversation, and we both shared a lot of personal stuff over the phone. It was the first time we spoke over the phone, and I never heard back from him.

Sat Aug 03 2024
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Anonymous's avatar
Anonymous

@Vera this is very good advice.

Sat Aug 03 2024
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Anonymous's avatar
Anonymous

@Laura Hi Laura, I am sorry about what you have experienced. And at the same time, thank you for sharing it with me. There is someone on YouTube called Mark who is from the USA, and he has a channel called 'Apply God's Word'. Have you ever heard about him? On his channel, Mark teaches Christian singles how to find the one. He gives helpful insights from a male Christian perspective. If you the chance to see it, please do. I hope you like it! 🙂

Sat Aug 03 2024
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Anonymous

@Vera thank you! I will look him up. What’s his last name?

Sat Aug 03 2024
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Anonymous's avatar
Anonymous

@Laura You are welcome! His name is Mark Ballenger. I hope you like it! 🙂

Sat Aug 03 2024
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Anonymous

@Vera thank you so much!! I will listen to him. I need guidance and also I received multiple confirmation that I need to focus on inner healing! You was one of my confirmation. Thank you for allowing God to used you! Whoever God have for you…He is bless! You are a jewel and full of wisdom.

Sat Aug 03 2024
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Anonymous

@Laura You are welcome, Laura! Your comment made my day. 🙂 I have been going through a challenging time. And despite it all, I have been asking God to put someone in my path that I can be a blessing to. So, when I read your question, immediately, I felt the need to reply. Thank you for your beautiful words! I believe you will also find a great man of God that will be a precious jewel in your life. 🙂❤️

Mon Aug 05 2024
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Anonymous

@Vera thank you so much sister!! He use you to speak wisdom into me. 🙏🏾

Mon Aug 05 2024
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Anonymous

@Laura You are lovely! Thank you once again! 🙂❤️

Tue Aug 06 2024
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Anonymous's avatar
Anonymous

be yourself a potential partner will eithe accept you or they wont its all in gods hands , thats the attitude i take into it

Sat Aug 03 2024
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Anonymous

@Luke thank you so much responding!

Sat Aug 03 2024
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Natalie Olivia

I just gotta tell you, you're a beautiful beautiful person inside and out! Advice, just be yourself, be bold for who God says you are, what God says you deserve, set your standards high, pray on everything, and wait on God to highlight people to you. Remember woman of God, you are the prize, that is what the Bible says 💖💖💝

Sat Aug 03 2024
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Anonymous

@Natalie Olivia Thank you so much, beautiful woman of God! You are beautiful inside and out, too! The one thing I didn't do was pray about everything and ask God to highlight the people He wants me to speak to. I definitely didn't wait, even when I heard Him say to wait. I pray your husband finds you; you are beautiful and bold! We need to encourage one another through this dating journey.

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