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Anonymous
Thu Aug 22 2024

Where are the men?

It seems that single Christian men are noticeably absent from our church communities, and here as well. I’ve observed that during engagement and live broadcasts, there’s often a 1:15 ratio of men to women (or there about). Ladies, you are all so amazing, but if I was looking to connect with an online community of single Christian women, I’d have just stayed on Threads. So, the question remains: where are the eligible men?

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Anonymous

I didn't realize there was a dearth. Maybe I'll try to attend a broadcast.

Mon Aug 26 2024
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David's avatar
David

Men are absent from most communities not just the church. I can’t speak for all men but seems like it’s more peaceful staying to ourselves and finding happiness within.

Fri Aug 23 2024
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Anonymous's avatar
Anonymous

So they are not Christians; a Christian who does not go to church is just a weed. There is no such thing as inner happiness without being part of the church community, which is the body of Christ.

Sat Aug 24 2024
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David's avatar
David

@Andreia what ? So no one can be happy within themselves? That’s a new one

Mon Aug 26 2024
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Anonymous's avatar
Anonymous

@David Have you ever seen a body made from just an amputated hand? That's how the church is, the body of Christ is complete with people together and not separated. Hebrews 10:25 25 not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.

Fri Aug 30 2024
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David's avatar
David

@Andreia no such thing as happiness within unless you go to church I got it 🫡

Fri Aug 30 2024
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Hermenegildo

@David bro, you are speaking for yourself. Genesis 2:18 - Then the LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.”

Sun Aug 25 2024
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David's avatar
David

@Hermenegildo family relationships and community can fulfill this need not being alone doesn’t specifically mean a wife.

Mon Aug 26 2024
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Hermenegildo

@David, that's the point. Matthew 19:5- And God said, ‘So a man will leave his father and mother and be united with his wife, and the two will become one body.’ So there are not two, but one. God has joined the two together, so no one should separate them.” You are suppose to multiply. Family and community can not fulfill this need, I am sorry.

Mon Aug 26 2024
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David

@Hermenegildo it is okay to be single according to the Bible. The apostle Paul, in particular, speaks positively about singleness. In 1 Corinthians 7:7-8, Paul says, "I wish that all of you were as I am. But each of you has your own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that. Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do." Paul views singleness as a gift that allows a person to focus more fully on serving God. 🙏🏾

Mon Aug 26 2024
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Hermenegildo

@David indeed, it's good to separate yourself for God purpose. Apostle Paul also said in Corinthians 7:9, "But if they can not control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion." So, no one is going to judge you if you decide to devote your life entirely to Christ. But we are called to multiply to fulfil the prophecy of the first man.

Tue Aug 27 2024
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Gourab

Wild horses we are. Not go into sTable we will :p

Fri Aug 23 2024
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Izrael's avatar
Izrael

It depends on the church. I personally have seen churches with extreme gender ratios 1:15 as you have described. Reasons for this? Rebellious women "pastor" in churches full of women, possibly spirit of homosexuality in communities full of men.

Thu Aug 22 2024
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Anukun the Skywalker

It all depends on the region I guess. In my region it's the other way around. I don't know what happened to my patch of generation but single women in my region are +-10 years older/younger than me. :/ Biggest mistake I made - started late in getting interested in a romantic relationship! But maybe it's for the best, everyone has their own pace.

Thu Aug 22 2024
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Anonymous's avatar
Anonymous

@Anukun the Skywalker I think that sometimes, but I don’t think I’d have made a good wife in my 20s. Everything happens in His time, I suppose.

Thu Aug 22 2024
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David's avatar
David

I admit it, I never participated to Table events yet. But otherwise there are a lot of men posting and commenting here on Social.

Thu Aug 22 2024
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Anonymous's avatar
Anonymous

@David the secrets of the algorithms 🤔

Thu Aug 22 2024
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Dave's avatar
Dave

Granted I live pretty rurally, but in my area I'm like 90% sure I'm the only single person that attends, barring the kiddos. At least that's how it looks..

Thu Aug 22 2024
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Julio

Pleanty of us out there not sure what you mean. Tbh I hear guys ask the same question about women. Some women also seem to have unrealistic expectations about what they want.

Thu Aug 22 2024
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Anonymous

@Julio perhaps it’s just the algorithms. I can’t speak to the unrealistic expectations. Both the expectations and ones definition of unrealistic are as ambiguous as they are subjective.

Thu Aug 22 2024
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