Challenges as a single Christian 😩

I find myself reflecting on why so many single Christians seem to judge one another. It’s truly disheartening, especially when it could be impacting individuals on Christian dating apps who are just trying to connect and find love and companionship. I believe it's important to remember that only God is meant to be the judge. Just as He is working in each of us, He is at work in everyone’s journey.

My biggest challenge after living with my ex for so many years and doing everything with him is definitely loneliness. At my age, all my friends are married and focused on their own families. Making new friends is very hard. As a single parent, you also don’t have much time to engage in social activities. I try to overcome this by going to the gym and volunteering. But nights are the worst. It is extremely complicated and hard to keep our hope and faith at this stage in life. 😔

We need to stop treating and addressing singleness as a disease or condition! I am pro marriage and want to be a wife. The Bible though even encourages singleness however: “Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.” 1 Corinthians 7:8-9

Being patient and wanting on God to send you a husband and to not take matters into your own hands. To not lust and be in the flesh and walk in spirit at all times.

I have kept myself clean, but people around get to the marriage stage through sex. Only. I literally know noone who is single older than 30 and hasn't had sex. It seems to be just the way it is, especially for men. Very, very sad. And there is huge devaluing of waiting for marriage. Well, I keep trusting God.

Acknowledging my inner weaknesses that I don't like and trusting God to cleanse & renew a steadfast spirit in me.

A Genuine Courageous man, who is gentle, honest, not afraid of a person's past (divorce) and is willing to build a family where other children are already there. 🧐

My biggest hurdle Ive found is peeps using the Lord as an excuse to be rude. I cant count how many times Ive received some varient of, "God told me you were not the one." Actually had one lady say she prayed God would remove me from her social group... I think people get caught up in a pattern where a life partner should fit their cookie cutter; anyone else is not part of the plan. That or its fear. My question is, how can one judge another's walk with Christ since we each have a unique path?

The most difficult thing is to find someone that truly can put Jesus first in there life, including there husband or wife. If God is first then he is the foundation.

"EL QUE SE ESTE QUEMANDO QUÉ SE CASE!!

The most challenging situation for me is that I’m messianic, we are Christian who follows the Torah And the new pact. We keep the Shabbat, we keep the feast of God as the bible says. We don’t celebrate Christmas or Easter, just the feast written in the bible. Some people are not familiar with this. This is my challenge

It’s very hard to find a Christian man that says they actually Christian and believes sex before marriage is wrong I feel a lot are just lying to themself to make them self feel better to many men give in more on lust nower days

Meeting someone who is a literal Christ-follower who doesn’t drink is very difficult.

My greatest challenges as a single Christian come from the fact that I’ve most likely been autistic all my life and didn’t know till now as an adult. I find it very hard to connect on a deeper level with anyone I don’t have much in common with and the people I find that I can connect with and accept me for who I am are not Christian which makes it nearly impossible for me to find anyone to date because I know it would be wrong to date an unbeliever. I don’t even know how to overcome this issue.

When you need Christian accountability but it’s limited to when you next see your friends because someone isn’t with you every day.

I must admit sometimes when it is preached that singles can serve God more wholeheartedly .... It feels a bit triggering from several experiences where they really seemed to be using the Bible as a guilt trip to volunteer to help with every activity on the church's calendar .... Been focusing on where I can serve effectively , appreciated for the effort , and not feel drained afterward ..... I cannot do everything asked ..... Focus on Fruit Produced instead of making people happy 🙏

Agree Rob and thanks for sharing. I might also add … divorced Christians face additional unique challenges as well.

Existing on this app. I use it to listen to table talks. Do men reach out to women on here?

The great struggle of a Christian is to look within himself and recognize his character flaws, which prevent him from giving a sincere Christian testimony. For a true testimony is to live the commandments of God as Christ lived... and this is our great struggle, because we must abandon sin and adopt a life of righteousness.

Finding someone who’s intentional and going to weddings 💀😅

Finding someone who wants to date with intention! They all just want to be casual and hookup.

Marriage is not promised to anyone in the bible. Jesus told his disciples that some people will not get married & this can allow them to devote more time and energy to serving Christ. I would love to be a wife but if God says NO then either way I will be okay because I trust God's plan for my life

- Conflicting advice (“wait on God” vs take action - the latter viewed as a step of faith or lack of trust in God) - Isolation, as friends couple up/get married/buy a house/have kids. - Church puts marriage on a pedestal, singles get forgotten/ignored/devalued - Scriptures are misused (e.g. Psalm 37:4) leading to false hope - Lack of teaching/discipleship, so many Christians don’t know what standards are acceptable, how to treat others and act with integrity. This applies to both men and women.

I would say the isolation and having nothing to do?

I would say having feelings for someone who is enequally yoked with you. You want them, desire them but you know they are not for you

To wait for husband ☺️

A woman's heart should be so lost in God that a man should know Him☝🏻 to find her. So run as fast as you can towards God, and if someone keeps up, introduce yourself.

My biggest challenge in dating is the mixed signals and actions of women. Also for me personally it is difficult to determine what things to share.

Buying crockery. No one needs that many of anything…

Myself !!! With God’s help , He is our Saviour, He knows me and my mess is never too messy.. He loves me . I need Jesus more than anyone or anything. I am never alone. I will come to Him for my healing . I will learn from Him whose yoke is not a burden .

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Mine is finding a Christian that is actually following Jesus and not the flesh.

A graça é a paz Goiânia - GO. Procura de um amor de 30 a 45 anos, evangélico🙏

I hate the overuse of Paul saying "I wish all were single like me." He literally says that he says that, not Jesus. Giving that statement, less emphasis/importance, than if it were Jesus saying it.

Finding other single/divorced/widowed Christians, IRL.

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The biggest challenge is LOVE HAS BECOME AN ART instead of something free, natural, liberty, and autheticitic ... I've found myself learning on YouTube, "how to keep a guy interested after we talk"😂😂😂😂....Ave studied these things on YouTube and practised them....how to act less interested...what to say when what🤦🏽‍♀️...people don't want to just meet and be yourself and FALL INSIDE LOVE...past pains make them hide their heart

Being single is good in the Lord, the apostle Paul mentioned that while the married woman worried about pleasing her husband, the single woman worries about pleasing God, so single people who do not learn to be happy with Christ, when they get married, will not be happy either. .

Sometimes Trusting that there actually is the kind of godly man I want and pray for.

I believe that one of the biggest challenges of being single is that many people identify as Christians, yet they incorporate worldly values into their understanding of relationships and marriage. However, this simply does not work! The Bible provides clear guidance on how a marriage should be structured and defines the roles of both men and women.

The lack of single pringle representation as a wholesome option that still is a valuable Jesus role. Lack of mentorship when navigating singleness/ relationships. Not feeling safe to express struggles and challenges at church; ie. porn, masturbation, pre marital sex, etc Finding men on the same page. Not getting upset at my parents when my relationships fall apart. I leave my anxieties at Jesus’ feet, pray for guidance, read His Word, talk with my friends and take life one step at a time.

Just meeting any "Christian" man who is actually matured in the Lord & a real man of God. I'd say they R probably 1 in 1,000 or less from what I've seen. Men don't seem to want to put in the effort with Jesus first so they can step up as a man & that's been really sad to witness. But I overcome by believing God's word, & only getting closer to God every day & realizing I'm God's precious jewel & that God's love is enough & to feel that peace & contentment in God is an amazing place to be.

A challenge I've faced is learning that there is a big difference between a "Christian" man and a "Godly" man. I've chosen to abstain from physical intimacy until marriage because I want to honor God, and the amount of "Christian" men who have tried to pressure me to give in to their desires and then become verbally abusive because I say NO is astonishing. A Godly man who has Jesus in his heart would never disrespect any daughter of God like that

Probably meeting other single Christian friends of similar interests and similar age, especially as a bit of an introvert! Signing up to Salt and sending intros for the first time was a step out of my comfort zone. 😊 Thanks Salt for providing this platform.

Trust! Trusting the Lord that the convictions He gives you in your life are important regardless of the lack of conviction other Christians have. Trusting the Lord is very easy to fake. It’s very easy to pretend that God’s word says what we want Him to say. So ultimately we have to follow the Holy Spirit. that makes a lot of people (even other Christians) uncomfortable.

Finding Christian friends has been difficult for me, but God is good and gave me a couple. For me, prayer and patience gained my answer.

Uncertainty