Dating and politics 😳

It can be, it also depends on their reasons though, if someone is voting for a party I disagree with on economical reasons alone because she thinks they would do a better job or maybe they want to provide more funding to a particular industry that's not unethical she is involved in, then it's not a deal breaker. But if it's for pro-abortion/euthanasia reasons, etc, no way.....

I have gotten to a point where I look to the government of God. If prayer is put first before voting then what is the point of arguing?

Yes it can be a deal breaker but depends on how seriously one takes politics. If the person is passionate about any of the 2 parties then it would be difficult to get along together. So a good question would be to ask the person, "What do they think about politics?"

Some interesting conversation here. I'm happy to see that everyone is being pretty respectful. I thought I would never date a conservative voter, until I actually did. I think what's more important than the party someone votes for is the values behind it. I found that actually we had similar hopes but just different ways of getting to the end goal. (I obviously thought mine were better!) But definitely wasn't a deal breaker. I think it's probably easier in the UK in lots of ways than the US.

The thing about is that politics is tied together with your values as person & your world view I believe . So I it vital to know where each of you stand in that sense.

It really depends on the political party. I am okay with UK political parties at the moment (but have my preference) don't carry a party card/membership but I do my civic duty by voting. A deal-breaker would be anyone who is a member of, or supports, the American un-Democratic party because of its history, link with the KKK, crime bills, pushing/mandating current evil ideologies and abortion. Not to talk of the recent internal coup that they thought went unnoticed. IMHO. 😊

On a tangent note, today I learned that our British friends across the pond like to use "different ... to", while Americans prefer "different ... than". Quite curious, isn't it? 🤔

Trump for me 🙂

Most likely, but it depends. How do I navigate? Just be honest & upfront on my views. In the US we have the 2 major parties, Democrat & Republican (& those who vote Independent, but I would say that doesn't happen very often). I like to think of myself as Independent, but I'm very conservative so I usually vote Republican. Typically those that vote either way has very different views on major issues(ex: abortion, immigration, marriage, etc), which is why I say it's probably a deal-beaker for me.

I’m live in Houston, Texas and voted for Trump

I do know of a UK Christian politician who represents one party, and her husband is a supporter of the other. That could never be me!

I’d struggle with someone who had gone down the conspiracy theory rabbit hole. No parties in the UK campaign on a Christian values platform, so always consider what is the least worst option from that perspective I also think which option will give the markets most freedom as this will be better for living standards and overall wealth growth. I’d couldn’t date someone who was on the hard left and leaning towards communism as these have been proven to be failed ideas.

I left the word “not” before the word “mean” in the last post. Christians need to guard against wolves in sheeps clothing across every aspect of society. We are also called to be salt of the earth.

I’m in the UK and I wouldn’t be bothered if anyone voted for one of our main parties, Labour, conservative, Liberal Democrat’s or even the Green Party. I couldn’t however date some one who voted for a far right party. White suprematist or neo nazi party as this goes against my believes and basic biblical teaching that we are all equal in the eyes of god

Trump 😍😍😍

Well, if their political view was in direct violation to Gods scriptures 😳 then it's a definite NO. From ME ! Such parties include exclusive advocacy of a homosexual or lesbian only political party and shooter hooters gun riot party or abortion, euthanasia party etc. It's a sign of wolf in sheep's clothing for me too !!

Depends. Are they a centrist? Probably fine. Extremist in the wrong direction? Probably not.

I don’t think I could date a Tory

Yes, I tend to agree with you Adam.

An essential in this topic that I aim to learn about people's individual views : Do you allow your opinions to determine how to interpret the Bible and the World around you? Or do you allow the plain-to-read universal truth in the Bible to determine how to think and feel about the World around you? If everything is relative and subjective without any absolute truth, then there is hardly any point in debating the particulars besides utility of how to live at peace with each other

I've heard several on this thread say similar things, but I would say the key is: what is the godly basis behind the way you vote? I think a conversation that starts there will tell you whether or not you have a dealbreaker situation.

Of course both in a couple will never fully agree on everything, but if the gap is too large it will become a deal breaker. Personally I think I couldn't date a woman who is strongly opposed to vaccines or not concerned by climate change, for example.

With that said, politics can become a deal breaker in dating if the person is actually subscribing to a specific worldview (what are his views on human nature, human values like justice, and paradigms). While it is important to consider them, There is the tendency for people to have a sense of political dogmatism in secondary / tertiary issues. It would not be worth it to make these as a "deal breaker".

Maybe to start, consider from Thomas Sowell's helpful advice — politics is about trade offs, not idealistic solutions. And the reason why there are trade offs in politics is because human nature and other facts on values (e.g. justice) has always been limited. People often assume that they can be moral crusaders in politics because they feel unlimited to achieve any political outcome. (Do not mistaken me for implying that a moral compass is irrelevant)

Spicy Topic! Unpopular opinion alert: just like in Hosea’s life God has every right to instruct us on who we are to marry. I can’t imagine any of us putting an unfaithful active-prostitute on our list. God does give us a choice. But what God plans is always better. Be careful not to put what’s in your heart as the only sign from God: otherwise you might fall into a trap your heart sets for you. But God can call us to make difficult decisions.

Not sure it would be a complete deal breaker. I think I would need to know the main reasons and how deep they are into the politics. Most important thing is to be aligned with the Word of God. If the government are actively telling us to do things that are against the Word, then God says we have His permission to not obey them. The Word of God is the we should be voting for. Not people 🤷‍♀️

I think it is a deal breaker 🥹 I still love people on the other side—don’t get me wrong! But it would be really hard to be in a romantic relationship with someone who sees what the other side is doing and is okay with it (whether you are left or right since nowadays they are so opposite). There is a possibility they are just deceived but after conversations and fact checks, if the person still doesn’t have the same beliefs as you, it would be really difficult for me personally.

I agree with @Evelyn .. tricky when people are strongly politically affiliated, that in itself rings alarm bells to me. Understanding why someone votes how they do could be a good way to get to know each other more though, so I think it’s pretty important to do… respectfully.

Political affiliation isnt a deal-breaker for me. Everyone is entitled to their beliefs. It does become a problem when it becomes your whole identity though. I would also break it off if my partner said they couldn't be friends or be open to being around those of a different party.

This an interesting question. In my view it goes beyond the party to include questions about policy and leadership. Does the candidate and their party’s policies align with Godly Christian values? If the candidate says they are a Christian do they live like a Christian? So far as is possible a Christian couple should align on those issues.

Yes especially if shes a democrat democrat and Christianity are not compatable she should be a conservitve republican at least that party supprts God and the bible the best /most

Depends if either person has a dominant nature, which is always the man when he's in his natural state. I immediately left my last gf over this.

It depends on their reasoning for how they vote and their attitude towards other parties. If they are staunch one way or another then that’s likely a dealbreaker. I’ve heard people say “if you vote … then you can’t be a Christian”, but that is an unfair blanket judgement - there has to be a willingness to listen and pray for those in power (whether we agree/like them or not).

Depends on which party. Some parties I can accept some not…