Dating multiple people... is it OK? 🤔

You will have less quality and more quantity with this mentality

this premise gets exploited, mostly by women, who are perpetually sizing up their options but never committing in godly submission. A very fine line.

I wouldn’t call chatting on here with more than one match “dating.” It’s learning more about someone, while sharing more about yourself, because we’re on an app to meet people. And tbh some people post so little on their profile you need to ask questions & learn more. Once you take it offline- I do think that changes. But if you want to officially date someone: don’t wonder if or assume they’re on the same page. Ask, “So just to clarify- are we officially dating now?” Or “I’d like to date you.”

Never ok.

No it's not ok...

I think using the phrase "exploring options" is fine if we talk about buying a car, tv, etc. Each person is unique, irreplaceable, unrepeatable, created in God's image. And what will happen to you if you start revealing your soul to a lot of people? Surely you can always make a step back, but please be careful. The basis for comparison is not something that is always good for one to have.

Depends.. you a Mormon?

For myself if I am talking to someone who seems interested in a relationship then I don’t pursue anyone else. So for it hasn’t worked out for me but I don’t think I could divide my attention.

My go to Scripture on this is Phil 2:3 -4 and Prov 3:3-4. .Scripture says to be 'hesed' and 'emet': to be kind/mercy/loving' and to be 'truthful/faithful'. Scripture says not be conceited and driven by self-ambition, instead count other more than yourself. You should be making friends in real hobbies and events, not dating apps. If you are shopping for a boyfriend and treating the emotion of other God's children as trivial playthings, God has said "it is mine to avenge, I shall repay".

Friends/talking with more than one person is fine by me incl. meeting up IRL. When the man tells me he is interested in something more intentional like dating or courtship and we have met each other's families then I see that as a sign to focus on one person. Sorry, there are timewasters out there...and I haven't got 5 years for someone to make up their mind about me! I usually know how I feel about someone in a few weeks because I give most men a chance and the benefit of the doubt, by faith.

The difference between me and a calendar 📆 A calendar has dates 🎲🎲

I think getting to know people as friends in a community setting is a healthy way to get to know people and guard your heart. I don’t know if dating is really my style anymore. I’d rather get to know someone organically and just let God draw us together as we pursue Him. Dating is can be exhausting. My 30s era may be a time of a different approach. Either that or I’m quiet quitting… can’t tell 🤔

Firstly, we should be intentional and also recognise that everyone we meet is valued by God - treat them as a sister/brother in Christ and set out to bless them. Dating multiple people might be “permissible” but I feel very uneasy about the idea. The point of having details on a profile is to provide a sense of who we are (faith, personality, interests), then chatting (for maybe a week or two) to get to know a bit more, then meeting in person is a positive step - especially if there’s distance.

Many people?? I can't even get one 🤦‍♂️

I can't talk to multiple people it's hard. Pray God gets us out of this mess

The topic of dating and talking to multiple people always makes me laugh though as it assumes that everyone has so many options of people to talk to and date when the reality for me is I can’t even get anyone to respond to my intro’s let alone get to the point to actually go on a date with a real human person! 🤣 If you have so many options that you can talk to and date multiple people then the Lord has truly blessed you! 🤣

I think chatting with multiple people and meeting multiple people is perfectly fine if you’re getting to know people. The problem is if you commit to being in a relationship with someone and then you still are talking in secret to others and going out on dates with others while you are in a relationship then that’s when it crosses the line into cheating.

In that stage you mention, yes. I'd say it's not only okay but necessary as a man. Eventually many of the options fade away.

I've spoken to a couple of people on here at the same time. Usually there's been something that we agreed how we weren't right for each other. If I do ever meet face-to-face, I think that would be ok, as it's still friendship. Think knowing you have a preference of one to officially go on a date, it's important to be honest with anyone else about the situation. Give them full disclosure. Let them down gently ect