Dating your friends ex?! 🤔

I think there's a bit of context. Is this something where they dated for a month or so then broke it off? Or was it something more serious where they dated for over a year, then it ended? The first case, I would say it's okay, but in the second, absolutely not.

When I see my friends exes, it just screams “no access”. Personally, I wouldn’t go there. It is disrespectful to my friend especially if they are still healing from that past relationship. Even if they have healed, I still would never go there.

Yes. Without context on when or why they broke up, or their current emotional and spiritual states, reactions often stem from personal discomfort. If God truly revealed someone as a partner in love and ministry, their past wouldn't be a deal-breaker. If my friend dated my ex, I would be fine. We broke up so we could each find our person. As Christian’s, we didn’t live together or have sex, so what’s wrong with my ex and my friend dating? They may be a better suited couple than we were 🤷🏽‍♀️

Never.

No way, because both will always feel uncomfortable infront of the Ex

If I would be that friend, I would never say no but I would also never feel good about that. 🙁

I don't think it is a good idea to do so unless guided by the Holy Spirit.

I think that’s a heck no for me!

Never date the ex of a friend or family member, never

Nopee

Its a no! unless they have found someone else and moved on

I don't think it's always a simple yes or no, as some have said you would need to talk to your friend first before (and if) going any further.

Absolutely not!

Nunca en mi vida. Que fuerte!

Only If she's hot😅👍🏼

No.

Red flag

It’s a complete no no

Not very demure but honestly depends on a lot. But first talk to your friend

No no

In my opinion, it depends of some sort of things. But the most important is: before anything and any move, go and talk to the friend about the situation

Would you be ok with your friend dating your ex ?

The Christian dating world is difficult and awkward enough without adding this to the equation. Even if the friend gave their blessing, it’s going to affect the friendship and if you’re in the same church it’ll affect the dynamic there too. It just doesn’t sit right with me and if I were the friend, I’d be wondering if there had been feelings there all along.

More to do with guy code really.

Uuuuuu.....not good . Almost sound like cheating :).. you know your friend you know his ex ...but you had time to observe ... If your friend does not mind and gives you his blessing yes ...but if you broke a friend's hearth ...he's not your friend anymore ..the world is full of exes..find another and keep them both as friends . Win win

I agree with @ haven, and with@ Simon depends on the situation and what type of friend if it’s a close or. Just an acquaintance!!

Difficult question. Imagine, Mia tells her friend Jane about Paul, like a matchmaker. Jane actually develops feelings for Paul. As soon as Mia notices this, she regrets her initiative and lets Jane know (in an indirect and slightly sneaky way): "Paul is actually mine, ok?".Paul and Mia actually start dating. 5 years later, Paul breaks up with Mia, she wants him back but for him ist is a clear No. Now Paul shows interest in Jane. Is Jane supposed to say "no" to him because of Mia? Sry, long text!

I think it's a complicated situation, I wouldn't feel comfortable

For me, my friends ex are a no-no. No matter how long they dated or how long ago it happened, it could bring up akward moments.

‘Tis a no from me. If for some reason I couldn’t shake the attraction, I would need to consult my friend in order to establish if they would be comfortable with me pursuing a relationship with their ex, before taking things further. This topic hits home as I recently ended a relationship with someone who saw no issue with dating an ex of a close friend without consulting them, knowing it would be devastating to her friend. I struggled with the fact she felt no remorse for her actions.

I heard somewhere that lauv makes you blind. If it is true then I guess I won’t be able to see 👀 my friend.

For me it really depends on the proximity of the friendship between you and said friend. Personally all my friends are pretty close to me so I would absolutely not date any of their exes, but can’t say it’s true if said friend was actually really an acquaintance who I spoke to from time to time. In such a situation I’d have a conversation with the person to gauge how they’d feel about it but ultimately if God gives the go ahead I’d probably go for it 😬

Great question, @David . Before I even contemplated reaching for the forty foot barge pole, I'd want a really good understanding of why she's your mate's ex. We don't want history repeating itself now, do we?

If the courtship was carried out in a biblical way then I’d say no problem. If you trust in Gods providence and sovereignty then it should not bother you.

I think it would depend on some factors. How long they were together, how they ended etc. and it would need to be approached with openness & honesty, have a conversation with the friend before anything happens.

For me it’s a big NO. I get it the Christian dating pool is so small, but I think between friends there are some things you just can’t do and dating an ex of someone you consider your friend is one of them

Depends on the situation!!! Sometimes yes and sometimes absolutely no! 😂