First date tips 💡

@Kati That was part of the joke (I should know better. I apologize 😅)

@Taylor Don’t!

@Taylor 🤭 You have a wicked sense of humor. Wonder if you use jokes to mask your nerves or anxiousness🤔

@Just Me Hayley Humor is a very nuanced thing. it can end up implying things that were initially unintended. So in a general sense I definitely use humor to ease tension and encourage a non-hostile atmosphere. In this case i think my initial intention was to poke fun at a paradox where people who are single are giving advice on how not to be single. nothing more.

@Taylor gotcha 😁 I love your wicked sense of humor even more now that you elaborated it and your 100% on point. I still stand by you and glad to find someone else with a wicked sense of humor like mine 🤗

@Kati I thought you were only about romance, passion, “the heart” 🙃

@Jude if you must know. I am only about ever meeting & marrying someone who God in His wisdom sees can help me change into His likeness, and I can help change likewise.. and thus glorify Him. If I can better glorify Him as a single woman, that’s all I want. The real romance that comes with marriage is something I will look forward to both giving and receiving if that’s His will.. and yes it is all about a heart that is rooted in the Creator of faithful Love.

@Kati Love 👌 Romanticism 😒

@Jude I hope one day you understand what is meant by true romance. I know it.. even as a single woman. It is in God and isn’t what you think.. no one who understands it would ever scoff at something beautiful made by the Author of it.

@Kati You're so calm, and wise. I agree, there's nothing wrong with romance in love

@Kati I think romance with ONE person in a relationship leading to a marriage, and in the marriage itself, is GOOD. I think TIMING ⏱ makes a whole difference.

@Jude I haven’t suggested anything other than romance within that context.

@Kelly ❤️

@Kati In the previous conversation we had I didn’t get that impression because like I was saying instead of prioritising fellowship and friendship to assess consistency (which is logical and rational) you were talking about emotions and “the heart”.

@Jude someday you’ll get it, I have no doubt 🙂

@Jude ps that wasn’t meant as patronising as it sounded 🤦🏻‍♀️ What I meant was.. someday I think you’ll get what I mean. I don’t think I can explain.

@Kati lol you’re so mean 😂 but nice 😇 I deserved it.

@Jude 🤗

@Kati I won’t tell anyone that you’re mean sometimes 😃😛😂

@Jude you really will keep going to get a reaction 🙄😄 Ain’t happening friend. Wrong tree :)

@Jude nothing wrong with being romantic. It’s not a sin. Maybe you could try it Jude 😉

@Oasis like I said, not with strangers. Multiple people, and we don’t even know them.

@Jude I’m assuming she means, just be your authentic self, like don’t pretend to be someone you’re not just to be impressive? I find trying to act naturally, very unnatural, I just become more nervous and more of a klutz 😅🙈. I think dating is dated on me. Getting too old. I’ll just be friends and then I’ll be surprised, perhaps? 🤔 Or I could be single, reminding people to put Jesus as their Spouse first. It’s a Jesus role either way. #Winning

@Oasis EXACTLY. 😂

@Stephanie 👏👏👏👏

@Stephanie Prayer does not limit you to the person you will interact with, nor does it dictate your status. Getting to know someone does not imply that he or she is the one; rather, it is an act of loving someone as a brother in Christ. For some, that’s the outcome of boundaries. When you are going to meet a person, we always put some label on that person.

@Katherine Although I know the concern about dating, however, this stage is in the future. Whether we love the person more than in a relationship or friendship, we always have to choose to pray for them.

@Katherine I’m curious to know if you need to seek God first before you go out for coffee with a guy. Do you? Do you need time in prayer to know if hanging out is in the will of God? I’m genuinely curious.

@Jude Of course. Whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God. And if ever a man would ask me on a date, I would consult first with God to guide me and ask His wisdom for that person. Not specifically if this man is for me or not, but the most important thing is you collaborate with God. You put God in everything. God doesn't want to be at first; rather, He wants to be in the center. ❤️🙏

@Katherine I agree on that fact that we should always invite God and collaborate with him. Do you think it’s worth doing a Bible study on what it means to date with the person and church elders first before agreeing to go for coffee with him? Do you think it would be best to arrange a prayer meeting first and then coffee after or a later date?

@Jude Consider asking God what to wear on your first date. If the Holy Spirit prompts you to prepare or advance to the next level, you will rehearse your statement to that woman or man. Always remember that God appreciates the small details in your life the most. Most of the time, we see the obvious things, even though we know that God never gives us hints. However, God always gives us hope for the things that are beyond our perception or cause us to rush.

Continue…. Make it a habit to consult the Lord for everything, especially during this dating stage, as we never know when God let His Spirit move us to start a big decision in our life. God is the only One who enables us to make the right decision in life. 🙏🙏🙏

@Jude Hmmmm 🤔💭… I think that is very OA.😅😅😅 to consult first with your leaders or conduct a prayer meeting. 😅😅😅Well, if you want that way why not invite her to your Bible study and prayer meeting with your church leaders instead? For me, that's a green flag. You surround your date woman with the people who are dear to you. Whether you are meant or not at least you invite her and ask for feedback from your leaders.

@Katherine OA?

@Jude am not sure if this is the right place to talk with you 😅 about our conversation going longer. 😅

@Stephanie praying with a man is what exposed him to me .i always pray with them and mostly asking Holy Spirit to reveal intentions etc.

@Katherine I’m sure others must be asking themselves what “OA” means… I don’t get it