Ghosting - let's talk about it 😱

I got like 20 girls who sent 1 message and never replied. Christians need to do better..... 🙄

Hi everyone. To be honest I learned this word and practice on august 2024 when I was ghosted. I still can not believe that a 54 man who I believe he was a mature and respectful and he was not. I would not like to live this horrible situation again.

Ghosting is a sin and it’s disrespectful

Ghosting is a harsh reality in today’s dating culture. I believe it’s not okay to just fade out without communication. A simple “hey, I think we’re not a good match ” shows respect. As Christians, we’re called to treat others with kindness and compassion. Ghosting falls short of that standard.

Ghosting is a reflection of the character of the person doing it. Either he /She is a coward , lack the relational skill to have tough conversations, or they do not believe you are one of God's children and that the heavenly doesn't know.

Well I think if you met the person in person either of you decided not to date then we should see the other person as a brother or sister in Christ because that’s what we are first , respect the other person space and give them the time they need if you write and they never write back then it’s just that sometimes people are busy with life.

Ghosting before, during or later sometime is always horrible to make and to receive. Respect and education, and honest comunication like "I don't want to chat more" or "you're not my type, sorry", always are very good and necessary.

I tey and treat people hoe I like to be treated but again like someone has said nky everyone has the same standards. I was ghosted by the same person three times on here the third time I said please don't ghost me again just say if you arnt feeling it...they still ghosted me ...some people have issues we might never know about or just don't think it's a issue.

I think that ghosting is abruptly cutting off all contact with someone you were talking to on a regular basis or have met and talked to in person without telling them anything or explaining why. I do however totally understand in situations where someone is being inappropriate or making you feel uncomfortable it is necessary to remove yourself from the situation any way you can. I don’t necessarily think that a conversation that fizzled out is ghosting.

I think ghosting is when a conversation has been flowing, and there maybe has been an online or in person meet up, and then one person stops responding suddenly. Conversations slowly winding down or not replying to an intro I don’t see as ghosting. I try to give time – I leave chats open for a month. This is because one time I had some personal stuff going on that meant I dropped everything for several weeks. I have ghosted when I was very uncomfortable with a conversation.

It's good to have standards , like not being rude or impolite even when stressed or busy ... Ya don't always know what the other person is going through ... Whether you built a relationship or not

I think that for ghosting to happen, then there needs to be a decent amount of prior communication and / or meeting in person to have happened. I don't think that people should demand that intros or matches be responded to, as you have no control as to when those matches or intros happen, or what else is happening with you on the app at the time. I think we should try to hold things lightly with people we communicate with on the app until we actually have a basis of a relationship with someone.

When it comes to online dating, it’s not really my responsibility to expect other people to follow my standards. Yes, it’s nice when people are polite and respectful. But standards and expectations are for people who are in, committed relationships. If someone on a dating app ignores me that’s a bummer, but it does me little good to dwell on it.

If party A starts a conversation and it comes to a natural conclusion then the ball is in party B's court. Not that A can start another one, but if B never starts the conversation then it might not exactly be ghosting but they can't be mad if party A decides the relationship is not worth the effort. If party A asks a question or makes a comment that demands reply, and party B doesn't answer, then that's ghosting for sure. After a date, if neither party follows up, then is it mutual ghosting?

As someone who has somewhat accidentally ghosted friends because of my stellar combination of introversion, social anxiety, and general forgetfulness, I want to say to people like me that if you've realized you've ghosted someone or have a habit of ghosting people, the important thing is to be honest about your flaws and mistakes, communicate as best you can and work towards communicating better. Ghosting doesn't have to become permanent if you don't let it.

I'm having the same problems, I've had more scammers than real people.

Ghosting is when communication fades into nothing. I was ghosted and it made me so confused to what I have done that made them do it. What I did was I prayed for wisdom on how to handle it. I did the no contact rule and moved on. I found out he was seeking for an update from my friend. He asked if how I was and my friend supports me, she just told him I am fine and nothing more. Ghosting is never healthy. I prefer closures when relationships wont work anymore rather than leaving silently.

Actually ghosting is not happening at all …. My page that holds CHAT is just broken , malfunctioning , or something 🧐….maybe it’s blocked somewhere on this app ?! 😜

Ghosting is as common as sad. I’ve been ghosted many times and recently, here on Salt☹️. I didn’t think it would happen amongst Christians. The problem is that it can create self-esteem issues, insecurities and the person just wondering if there is something wrong with them or what they did or say wrong. Not nice at all.

It happens so much now days that it doesn’t even bother me anymore… 😊

Many times a woman matched with me then... nothing. No message. Seriously, why to match if it's not to get to know the other ?? I learned to let it go and not be angry about it, but I must say I'll never understand this behaviour among Christians. So I totally agree with @Leona .

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Hi Everyone, I agree with everything Leona has said here. Ghosting is simply bad manners and disrespectful. It demonstrates poor character in my view. Thanks.

Sometimes friends do this as they meet new friends and presumably they are a better offer- My sister is a therapist and she says people can be quite unkind, particularly if you are not very assertive and tolerate other people’s bad manners.

I have just come to accept that a woman may not want to continue chatting after some time here, but that's ok for me, if they may have met someone new

Tell the truth and Shane, the devil it’s the most important thing

When a conversation fizzles out, there’s usually some indication (e.g. if the other person doesn’t ask you questions). But if the conversation is flowing, you’ve spoken or met in person, going silent without explanation is ghosting and not ok. It’s difficult enough getting a response in the first place, so ghosting is extra cruel. We should treat people as we want to be treated, and as Christians, should value everyone we communicate with. Gently say it’s not working and bless them.

When someone did not respond or break off chatting in the past, i chose not to get offended. Just pray that they find the right one for them and move on.

Many reasons. First people thinks they got scammers so best advice is block so thsts ghosting. 2nd. Scamers themswlves will ghost you after you are asked for money. 3rd its a "lesser" rude than saying "um you are nice but lets be friends" friend zoned. 3rd. Itz a waste of time to zay thr previous reason.

Just to add, on the other side of things, I remembered that I have actually been ghosted. The guy replied to my initial message a day or two later, but when I replied to that... nothing. I waited at least a week, maybe more. Figured that was what happened. (And I know people take also breaks, but at least inform a person of this first if you're already talking to someone.)

Basically Leona said it all. I've been on both ends of the conversation when it didn't work out - having to bring it up, and when the guy said it wouldn't. Which is fine, I'd rather know. Think we should all remember it involves being polite, even if it's uncomfortable saying so at the time.

I think its just good manners to treat others how we would like to be treated. We should just be honest with someone & tell them (politely) you no longer want to chat & wish them the best, as to just disappear or stop replying is unkind & something I wouldnt want done to me, so I wont do it to others. Not all conversations will lead somewhere, but as adults & Christians we need to be more considerate & kind than our secular world friends & see everyone as somebody not just an option 💜