Just let them reveal themselves naturally. Itâs for the best for people to decide if they donât like you for your quirks so you donât waste time later on.
Hiding my weird quirks đ¤Ş
Do you think you should hide or supress your weirder quirks until later in dating? Or do you just put them out there for people to vibe with your weird early on?
Based on my experience on this app so far I gather that most donât really wait until later đ¤Łđ¤Ş
@Tom đ
I think everything should be open from the beginning , to avoid unnecessary drama. Your Partner should be comfortable with your true and unfiltered personality.
Vibe with your weird early on. You tend to find the other person has the same vibe & quirks.
Hmmm depends how weird....lol.
Trying to get a specific outcome by acting Disingenuous never sounds like the good answer to me :3. Balance with what comes naturally from you, within a loving place, is a good place to start. I feel âĽď¸
So, here's the thing, I can be very goofy & dorky... and I used to think this would for sure be a turn off to men, so I'd be more overtly quirky around guys I had no interest in, & much more reserved & over thinking probably with the ones I really liked. But guess what, the goofy ended up attracting all the guys I had zero interest in đ. & the overthinking pushed my crushes away... Just my luck. So yeah, as a scholar once said in this chat đ¤Ł, let your freak flag flyđ except if U need therapy.
đ true
I say just be yourself not what someone wants to see!
All the quirks 𤥠no I save mine to stay mysterious & make each date more interesting & fun! Not sure what my quirks are đ¤ who wants to find out? lol
I think people need to remember that NO ONE is PERFECT, thatâs why Jesus died on the cross for our sins, so maybe when first meeting others we should humble ourselves and not forget we are all weird in one way or another đ¤ˇđťââď¸
What weird quirks?? Don't know what your talking about đ
Front-load the quirks. You gotta stand out from the crowd and you wonât do that by being boring and polite.
@Matt đ¤ being impolite is a terrible strategy. Just fyi
I believe you should be as real & authentic as possible. If they like that, awesome! If they think you're "too weird" or "crazy", then it's their loss.
Nah just let your freak flag fly đŚ
@Stephen Yes! đ
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@Stephen I concur. Canât even hide even if I wanted to. Brain feels itchy and glitchy.
Itâs natural to be guarded until we get to know someone, but I donât think we should actively suppress quirks/who we are either, like wearing a mask. It also depends on the quirks - if we are aware of them and acknowledge the weirdness then itâs probably not harmful or inconvenient (like the profile question âI know itâs weird but I like eatingâŚâ). If we arenât aware of our quirks and think they are normal - or meet someone like that - there could be problems. Wisdom and grace are needed.
I definitely recommend being your 100% authentic God-given self from the start 𧥠That way you will weed out those who arenât a fit for you. Itâs so important you feel comfortable being your true self around a partner. Something I have learnt the hard way!
I can't hide anything! Whether that's fortunate or not, I don't know!đ¤Ł
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Omg, THIS! đ