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Isabel - Team SALT
Thu Sep 12 2024

Hiding my weird quirks 🤪

Do you think you should hide or supress your weirder quirks until later in dating? Or do you just put them out there for people to vibe with your weird early on?

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Christian's avatar
Christian

Just let them reveal themselves naturally. It’s for the best for people to decide if they don’t like you for your quirks so you don’t waste time later on.

Fri Sep 20 2024
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Tom's avatar
Tom

Based on my experience on this app so far I gather that most don’t really wait until later 🤣🤪

Thu Sep 19 2024
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Nicole's avatar
Nicole

@Tom 😂

Thu Sep 19 2024
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Anonymous's avatar
Anonymous

I think everything should be open from the beginning , to avoid unnecessary drama. Your Partner should be comfortable with your true and unfiltered personality.

Thu Sep 19 2024
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Anonymous's avatar
Anonymous

Vibe with your weird early on. You tend to find the other person has the same vibe & quirks.

Wed Sep 18 2024
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Anonymous's avatar
Anonymous

Hmmm depends how weird....lol.

Wed Sep 18 2024
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Rebecca's avatar
Rebecca

Trying to get a specific outcome by acting Disingenuous never sounds like the good answer to me :3. Balance with what comes naturally from you, within a loving place, is a good place to start. I feel ♥️

Tue Sep 17 2024
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Natalie Olivia

So, here's the thing, I can be very goofy & dorky... and I used to think this would for sure be a turn off to men, so I'd be more overtly quirky around guys I had no interest in, & much more reserved & over thinking probably with the ones I really liked. But guess what, the goofy ended up attracting all the guys I had zero interest in 😂. & the overthinking pushed my crushes away... Just my luck. So yeah, as a scholar once said in this chat 🤣, let your freak flag fly😅 except if U need therapy.

Tue Sep 17 2024
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Nicole's avatar
Nicole

😂 true

Thu Sep 19 2024
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Jean's avatar
Jean

I say just be yourself not what someone wants to see!

Tue Sep 17 2024
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Zoe's avatar
Zoe

All the quirks 🤡 no I save mine to stay mysterious & make each date more interesting & fun! Not sure what my quirks are 🤔 who wants to find out? lol

Mon Sep 16 2024
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Leona's avatar
Leona

I think people need to remember that NO ONE is PERFECT, that’s why Jesus died on the cross for our sins, so maybe when first meeting others we should humble ourselves and not forget we are all weird in one way or another 🤷🏻‍♀️

Sun Sep 15 2024
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Josh's avatar
Josh

What weird quirks?? Don't know what your talking about 😂

Fri Sep 13 2024
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Matt's avatar
Matt

Front-load the quirks. You gotta stand out from the crowd and you won’t do that by being boring and polite.

Fri Sep 13 2024
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Natalie Olivia's avatar
Natalie Olivia

@Matt 🤔 being impolite is a terrible strategy. Just fyi

Tue Sep 17 2024
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Juan's avatar
Juan

I believe you should be as real & authentic as possible. If they like that, awesome! If they think you're "too weird" or "crazy", then it's their loss.

Thu Sep 12 2024
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Anonymous's avatar
Anonymous

Nah just let your freak flag fly 🦅

Thu Sep 12 2024
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Anonymous's avatar
Anonymous

@Stephen Yes! 🙌

Thu Sep 12 2024
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Natalie Olivia's avatar
Natalie Olivia

🤣😅

Tue Sep 17 2024
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Anonymous's avatar
Anonymous

@Stephen I concur. Can’t even hide even if I wanted to. Brain feels itchy and glitchy.

Tue Sep 17 2024
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Rob's avatar
Rob

It’s natural to be guarded until we get to know someone, but I don’t think we should actively suppress quirks/who we are either, like wearing a mask. It also depends on the quirks - if we are aware of them and acknowledge the weirdness then it’s probably not harmful or inconvenient (like the profile question “I know it’s weird but I like eating…”). If we aren’t aware of our quirks and think they are normal - or meet someone like that - there could be problems. Wisdom and grace are needed.

Thu Sep 12 2024
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Alice's avatar
Alice

I definitely recommend being your 100% authentic God-given self from the start 🧡 That way you will weed out those who aren’t a fit for you. It’s so important you feel comfortable being your true self around a partner. Something I have learnt the hard way!

Thu Sep 12 2024
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Anonymous's avatar
Anonymous

I can't hide anything! Whether that's fortunate or not, I don't know!🤣

Thu Sep 12 2024
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Natalie Olivia's avatar
Natalie Olivia

😂🤣😅

Tue Sep 17 2024
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Natalie Olivia

Omg, THIS! 😂

Tue Sep 17 2024
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