This only viable answer to this question is that this will differ depending on the following factors; how long they've been together, how committed each person was, how the break up occurred, the impact the break up has had, and how much healing the person needs. The final say on timeframes for our behaviours lies with God. We should be listening to Him and allowing Him to guide every aspect of our lives 💕🔥
The statistics say the average time for people getting over a divorce and feel healed is five years it I think it really depends on the situation you’ve been through and what you want now!
I think it's more about wat you've done w/the time since parting. If u haven't done any heart work or past family & relationship/courtingship healing & saw a continuous pattern in them, u need to ask the Lord why and what through that. u won't be fully healed when marriage happens but certain things need 2 be dealt with before you meet ur future spouse if you want 2go through less heartache..if only both individuals did this in their singlehood you would have a stronger marriage (not perfect)
A marriage break up - I think (from personal experience) that you should wait until the divorce is completed, and you have processed what happened A relationship - it depends, but if you allow yourself to really sit in the pain you will most likely feel; and then process, and not avoid your feelings, pray about it, ask God what He wants you to have learned, then you may be in a place to date again in just a few months
It depends min 1 to 2 years
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6 months
Whenever it feels ok
Its better to reflect, understand and heal first. The healing part is a bit trickish as many will jump into dating and expect the new person to aid healing. Heal alone. Heal first. Then, brace yourself after and get into friendship. 😆 🤣
Just be who and what you are
Idk- still healing. It’s almost 1 year and it still feels the same.
As someone with no relationship experience Im just here to read other opinions. Very interesting question
When a relationship breaks down, there needs to be sufficient time to: grieve the loss, reflect and learn (without beating yourself up about what you could of/should of done differently), lean on God and trusted friends, to ensure you know who you are without finding your identity/validation from another person. It takes time to heal and if this process is rushed, it’s damaging to you, but also others. We should be seeking a God-centred marriage, not a relationship to try to complete or fix us.
As Christians, you shouldn't be dating... How are you in a relationship with someone and break up at a Christian? Relationships should lead to marriage, and you would be courting someone and seeking marital counseling from your pastors at your church.... Asking the question "how long after a break up should I start dating again" the answer is never. Dating is a worldly thing. Jumping from person to person. No wonder this app is full of the secular. Go to plenty of fish for that nonsense.
We all make mistakes and need Gods grace. David made many mistakes but was a man after Gods own heart. Is it not better to realise whilst courting that someone isn’t right for you rather than marrying them anyway? What is the difference between courting and dating?
@Emma if you don't know the difference between dating and courting then that's probably half the reason why you're 41 and divorced and on a dating app.
@Seamus we are here to build each other up, show Christian love and kindness. God meets us where we are at, sees our heart and willingness to change. May God be merciful to you in the areas where need to learn too 🤗
@Seamus blessings brother , I think when they use dating it’s a figure of speech , it’s asking how long should you wait
Before you are ready to find some one new for your life!
@Yvette what does any amount of time have to do with finding someone to marry?... You divorced women are not good examples.
@Seamus yep! Well said. I feel, however, that this choice is no longer mainstream thinking within Christians. People don't seem to understand the damage jumping from partner to partner causes their soul, spirit, and relationship with God.
Maybe after a year
It all depends. Depends on how long the relationship It was, Who left Who and why, how you feel after the break Up and if there is anything you need to heal or work on yourself
Something between 6 to 12 months.
It took me a year and a half to feel ready after a relationship that lasted a year and a half. It was a really toxic relationship that wasn’t God focused at all and He made me what feels like an almost entirely new person afterwards. So I’d say the right amount of time is however long it takes you to forgive yourself and the old partner, and / or feel ready and excited to pour God‘s love into somebody else.
As you said, it’s case by case & depends greatly on the relationship & individual. I’ll say for 100% certain from personal experience that MOST people do NOT take enough time to heal after a divorce, it’s more traumatic than most know, especially when you were the one who was left. I met a lady at Starbucks years ago & after talking for 2 hours, she tells me she’s separated from her husband, DON’T do that, you’re still married! All situations need time ALONE with Jesus & lots of prayer!🙏🏼
When you feel ready, it’s good to get back out and meet new people & keep positive! 💫
I would say between 2 weeks and a month, depending on how serious it was. Also, I would think about the other person and how long they need to process before seeing me with another person. As much as we shouldn't stop ourselves from moving on if we are ready, (and there's nothing wrong with moving on if you feel you're ready for it) I feel it is honouring and respectful to the other person to allow them time to process too. After all, breakups hurt on both ends regardless of who ends them.
I think it depends on when you feel ready. For example if you left on good terms and you feel ready after a couple of weeks then why not go for it. But longer relationships where some damage may have occurred, then however long the healing process takes
I think if the relationship has been longer than a year then give yourself a month or two at least
