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Isabel - Team SALT
Thu Apr 10 2025

If you don't fancy them straight away...

What would you do if after the first date you don't fancy them? Would you go for a second date if the conversation was good? Or do you think it's just always going to be a friendship and best to leave it?

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Nat

Sometimes people can be nervous/shy, always give them a 2nd chance/2nd date. But, if values/morals don’t align on the 1st date during conversation then a 2nd date is not required.

Thu Apr 17 2025
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Serenity

Physical attraction never matters long term, but can effect how feel at first. Take time learn what person personality is like. As long as there enough in common to have at least a friendship, then it worth trying for second date. Sometimes it take time to build up emotional connection for a relationship.

Wed Apr 16 2025
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Robert

Sometimes you don't immediately have the feelings but they grow over time. My general rule is to be honest about how things are going and communicate if it's just not happening by date 3 end so you respect their time too.

Wed Apr 16 2025
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Anna

I guess it depends on the reason you dont like them - its always important to be clear on your reasons and go from there for sure

Wed Apr 16 2025
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Dave

I'd definitely try for a second date unless there's some major red flag, always like to give everyone chances though

Tue Apr 15 2025
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Santiago

Hello, my name is Santiago. I'm from Peru, a practicing Catholic. I'm 37 years old. If you'd like to talk, please write to me. God bless.

Tue Apr 15 2025
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Ari

Take time to consider it. Likely go to second one. Best to chat through expectations.

Tue Apr 15 2025
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Thankful

There should be some sort of chivalry or kindness or feeling that first time to keep you. First impressions do matter. Isaac’s servant looked for a lady of service on the first encounter. I have ended things based on asking the right questions or totally no chivalry .

Tue Apr 15 2025
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Ariana

@Thankful 👏🏻

Tue Apr 15 2025
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Cate

I think it depends on what makes a person attractive to you. For me it's intelligence, kindness, compassion, and how they conduct themselves and treat others. Its not how good looking they are, the outside appearance does not portray their personality and how they will treat me. Therefore, for me, it takes more than one meeting to work out if I 'fancy' someone.

Tue Apr 15 2025
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Fenicia

I would at least give it another chance/date unless God told me not to

Thu Apr 10 2025
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Kelly

Unless there are major red flags or something, I'd definitely say a second date at least is a good idea. You don't really know each other very well, even if you have been talking/video called on a platform like Salt first

Thu Apr 10 2025
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Jason

To a degree I agree with Greg, but also after first date or video call , you probably still barely know the person or whether they are a good match with you, well besides glaring character flaws or opposite worldviews and values (not healthy to really share vulnerabilitues too early) .... I agree more with the three date rule and ideal of friends first that we seek to get to know their heart more than happenstances and let them know that you are not going to drop them based on first impressions

Thu Apr 10 2025
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Greg

I heard a sermon yearssss ago by Greg Laurie & he said at whatever point when you are with someone, if it’s one date, one week or one year… & you know or God shows you that this is NOT your person, you need to end it… & here’s the kicker… he said, “… why would you want to continue dating someone else’s future spouse?!” 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

Thu Apr 10 2025
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Anna

🔥

Wed Apr 16 2025
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