Is this too judgemental? 🙃

Just ask them what they mean super openly

Confess this is true: Jam.3:2 NASB For we all stumble in many ways. If anyone does not stumble in what he says, he is a perfect man, ... Now we know no one is perfect. So act upon it, being patient and understanding the heart's true intentions and desires.

If that hasn’t seemed right to you, better not to force the relation, as that might be something that was uncovered to you. I’d call it off straight away. Once I hadn’t and then had to regret for a long time. But maybe that’s only my bad experience 😉🙏🏻

I would challenge it on the app no need to be subtle if something is bothering you. For theirs and your sake. Safe yourself the worry of their intention in their talk and safe then from having a fake conversation and possible safe both yalls time if its a deal breaker for you.

My policy is to always give the benefit of the doubt/ give grace, especially when texting. God will protect and eventually reveal someone's character, plus you never know if that person needs to see kindness from you, and may grow and want to emulate the same. Too many times people misread eachother via text.

@Isabel - Team SALT ask questions, ask the person to clarify, engage them in more dialog on the matter, seek understanding.

Perhaps more context on what they said will help inform next course of action. If it is is something that clearly defines who they are and a red flag, then walk away. If it is something else that just needs sorting out then speak about it. Afterall everyone is human and can make mistakes and even when you get into a relationship/ marriage you will still have to deal with similar situations . Best wishes

Check, ask questions, get clarity, but more importantly give grace

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Depends. Maybe get clarity before writing them off. We all perceive things differently. All the best to you!

Depends on what was said and how soon into the conversation period, it is... If what was said was in stark contradiction to their profile or stated values and you learn it early in the chatting phase, I see no issue with ending the conversation. However, if you have been chatting for a few weeks, I would first clarify the comments in line with what was said previously and then respectfully end the interaction with a goodbye.

Ask them about what they said to get some understanding.

Simple… Just ask them about it!!… Don’t overreact, don’t judge, don’t get angry. “Challenging” people you’re dating isn’t a great idea or approach whatsoever!!!… You’re not competing with them!!!!

Depends on what it is. There’s certain things that would be a deal breaker but other things that might just need clarification.

It's interesting question. It's good to remind ourselves that there is persons who are seeking opportunities to manipulate. Those people aren't seeking understanding but power and dominance over other. C. Doesn't protect you from that. Your A and B are looking same to me & if person happen to be narsist you are shut down and humiliated or ending up to eat your own doubt un reasonable. I recommend pause, prayer and then do what God recommended to do and say. Works better than own understanding.

B - challenge them on what they said, maybe you might learn something about how they view things. A sounds like you're being judgemental but you may have your reasons, whereas C comes off as a people pleaser or just always seeing the good in people. B is safe, leaves room for open conversation and safe space but also be careful not to entertain what you shouldn't

E. Get clarity, then proceed further

Really depends on the context, but I’d find it more productive to talk things out rather than calling it off right away

E. Ask what they mean/ask them for clarity. Just in case there’s more to it or a misunderstanding. Then consider options.

B. If someone says something that doesn’t sit right, I’d address it with grace and truth. We grow through honest conversations, not judgment. Speaking in love gives them a chance to clarify or change, and it allows me to reflect and grow too. Forgiveness and accountability help us refine each other, as iron sharpens iron (Prov. 27:17). We’re called to build up, not cast away, walking in truth and grace (Eph. 4:15).

Totally depends on what was said.

I think it depends on what was said. It's always worth seeking clarification if you're not sure . I'm learning not to go with option a

Hi, the problem with communicating via just messaging, it removes tone of voice and body language., making it very easy to misunderstand something that someone, who you know very little about, has written. My advice is, just clock it, but keep chatting. In time, more will be revealed about that person, so you will understand more about what they said. Try to get to video calling or meeting in person relatively quickly, to properly get to know them, and pray for discernment. Good luck 🙏🏻💕

I would say it depends on the comment and context, but generally would go with C as good conversations after a match are rather rare (at least in my case).

Funny story: I once (on another dating site) accidentally clicked on a dead conversation, and while trying to exit the chat, i ended up giving their comment a “thumbs up” instead. the conversation had clearly died off previously from spiritual difference, and so that accidental thumbs ended up acting as a match that sparked what would be a pretty heated conversation that i think either of didn’t particularly want to have, but were willing to continue 😂

B & C both

Clarify it. What do you mean by this...?

Option D .... Gently ask for clarification... Practice Empathetic Active Listening Could you help me understand better what you meant when you said ___'_____ ? Hmmm, i think heard you say this ____ , could you explain that more please? I am feeling {tired} and might not have heard this __' in the best light , can we talk about it more tomorrow? Ah that topic is loaded with strong thoughts and feelings for me , can we put a pin in that and circle back later this week?

Text isn’t the best medium for communication as all of us have no doubt experienced. It’s hard to get emotions through or in intent. I would say you give them the benefit of the doubt or ask him to explain a little further. I hate this sort of pseudo anonymity of these sites where people just ghost people.

If it’s a theological difference, then listening to their viewpoint and having a discussion is worthwhile, don’t immediately write them off. If they admit to being an alcoholic/addict (and it is an active problem or they’ve been in recovery for less than a year), kindly and gently walk away. Their focus should be on recovery not on a relationship, so it’s not doing either of you any favours. If they’ve not been truthful or exhibit attitudes which are unkind, it’s not judgemental to walk away.

Depends on what was said. I can misinterpret what another has said, so I tend to ask questions diplomatically that will help me understand the context within which something has been said, otherwise I'm going to react based on an assumption which could be wrong.

It depends on what was said

That would depend on the thing said. Generally speaking, I would probe into the meaning or intent of what was said with them. If it turns out that what was said was off-putting then I would call them out on it. If they’re beyond saving at that point, then I would respectably call it off.

It depends on what they said that If they said something unbiblical then I definitely woudl ask questions to understand how they came to that conclusion then show them with scripture where they error If it’s something that is more preference than dictated by scripture then I woudl still ask questions but I wouldn’t worry about it as much

I would always try and give people the benefit of the doubt and ask them about it to make sure I didn't read into it the wrong way or something. It really does depend on what they've said and the heart behind the comment (and their response to me not liking the comment). We're all human and make mistakes, and I'd like to offer the same grace to others that I'd want to receive from them should the roles be reversed 🙂