it’s just a coffee?!? ☕️ or is it?!?

I think it's a great way to get to know someone and be in a healthy mindset. Unless the person asking is not safe.

Hmmm so agreeing to go out with a guy for me is very serious it isn’t a flippant thing it’s potentially something that could grow… So I personally think that even going for a coffee you have to keep in mind what is the purpose of this .. is this something that God wants me to do so prayer would have to be first response. So as a man I believe you should definitely pray first before asking someone out and take it serious.

I think embrace the American culture of first dates freely. So much easier to discern in person.

That’s interesting. I once asked a guy friend from my church for “coffee” - but I genuinely just wanted to go for a coffee just sit and chat that’s all. He made it so wiered like I was actually asking him out on a date and it didn’t happen. Outside the church I go out with my male colleagues for a coffee and it isn’t wiered at all. Strange

I think all relationships should start as a friendship and a coffee date is a chance for both to make themselves interesting as a person so both would be looking forward to meet up again 🤷🏻‍♀️

It’s only coffee with a mate. #friendateship

I think making sure that both parties define the ‘coffee date’ the same is important. Some may misunderstand. Personally, I am of the thought that there should always be a first date that is casual and holds no further significance other than seeing if there is a mutual connection. And, meeting a new person! Nothing gets lost in my opinion.

I personally think a coffee “date” is a great option for a first date. I think it’s a no pressure way to meet and get to see if either person is interested in going out for a more official date. I don’t typically consider going out for coffee an actual date, but more of an icebreaker date. Unless there were red flags I would pretty much always accept a coffee date, but definitely wouldn’t go into it with the expectation of a relationship developing from it.

Nothing scary about getting to know another person over coffee. Definitely worth it. Nothing to lose and so much to potentially gain.

Call me oldskool but no no no to US dating culture, scary!! 😶‍🌫️ 😬

Big fan of coffee first dates! The first few are just about getting to know someone, seeing if you have commonalities in the things you desire, and assessing whether you enjoy being around them. A coffee date is a good starting point to get to chatting about those things. It's not a full meal for cost. If things go well, it can go longer and maybe turn into a date date. If not, you can leave in an hour. We should always do things prayerfully, but sometimes God wants us to take a step he can use.

It's very wise to have decernment first....due to today's society it's best. A coffee date is a wonderful first date!

my thoughts are if I have a coffee with someone they arent my girlfriend yet just keep things casual to start if they want to see you again great !!! but if not its fine you get to meet a new person .

If I have no obvious reason to decline, I will accept a date. It's just a date, and it's how you see if you get along with a person or not. Just because you say yes to a date doesn't mean you are saying yes to marrying him. You are saying yes to getting to know him a little bit better to see if you want to move forward and keep getting to know each other.

First of all, as a woman, I’d rather not initiate a first date but respond to the invitation. I personally see a first date as an important event because, regardless of whether it’s coffee or something else, it still requires time and effort from both. So, I’ll make sure I see something I’m looking for (not about wedding) in the person (whether it’s spiritual, mental, or physical attraction) before that happens. This can be determined through conversations (messages, calls, or online meetings).

I used to think of it casually until I realized that some guys started telling mutual friends that we went out! (how is that possible after one short date?) So now I'm a lot more cautious.

I’d always say yes to a coffee cause I believe a coffee is just a coffee and a first date is just a first date! 😊

I’ve always considered coffee more a casual first date, no strings, just seeing if we get along in person over a drink before deciding to go on another ‘date’. I think as Christians we put too much pressure on ourselves, at the end of the day a coffee ‘date’ is just a coffee, so relax. If we go out again that’s great, but usually you know if you connect with someone when you meet, and if there isn’t a connection don’t force it.

I'd admit that Ive rejected a few "just coffee's" (I don't like wasting heart space, theirs or my own) if the connection wasnt immediate. Like Julio, for the most part I can discern if these connections will hit a dead end, but, I'm finding value in having a more casual mindset (not careless, just not jumping onto the marriage train) which actually encourages me to keep waiting for what I desire in a Godly relationship as I mire objectively can decide if I enjoy this person effortlessly.

It’s just a coffee… Zero commitment… The ONLY question after the coffee is over should be, “Do I enjoy this person enough to see them again?” Nothing else!! Don’t ask yourself if you could see yourself married to them! It’s just a coffee.😊☕️

I make it clear that I will meet with someone we are going to start as fiends with the possibility for more. But tbh I can wead out a lot of people just with a few phone calls. I can get a decent grasp of their spiritual life and goals. That I think people need to be more open about. Just have a call with someone and see where it goes.

There is no hard and fast rule. That once again depends on the philosophy/upbringing of both individuals involved. I would personally say yes unless I knew there was a reason it wouldn't work out. But some people think first a date and then a ring...