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Anyone got some bad date stories to share? We're not trying to shame anyone or trigger anyone so be wise in what you share, but we'd love to hear your experiences and laugh together
I fell for the over the top love bombing, Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde swindle. Classic narcissist. When I heard about the encounters others had with this personality type the stories were always exactly the same. Eerie.
I invited lady to meet after several years. Sme friends told me she was into me. The day I was going to meet her she drove slowly being super mad at me.. with hateful eyes. But she didn't even get out of her car.
Iâve had heaps of GHOSTING donât know why đ¤ˇ? I never do to someone like that. Is it yes or no! Thatâs all. Never waste anyoneâs time.
My date was over 1 hour late, seemed high or on medication, not very sociable in person, and didn't finish her meal before the restuarant needed to close...oh dear đ đ¤ˇââď¸
Interestingly enough đ I've been ghosted quite a few times.
Think I'd be banned if I said what my experience was.
A person from here started a conversation with me on messenger. He made a disgusting sexist comment on me, because I exposed a vulnerable side of me, when I told him, why I can't be with someone, who had an extremely big beard. He said, that his best bible teachers, had a big beard. My relevant ones didn't have one. I won't put servants of God inside of boxes, like beard or no board.
I walked into a place once and Rick Warren was there already....
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Has anyone had someone send a picture of them âexposingâ themselves????? Sorry if this is too inappropriate to ask. But I had a guy do that to me and it was one of the most uncomfortable things Iâve ever been through đ¤Śđ˝ââď¸
@Aquilla oh no sorry you experienced that đ totally inappropriate
Pretty sure thatâs illegal
@Aquilla hahaha đ
One girl used me for a taxi ride. Another just didn't turn up and started posting stories which she was far away doing other things
Worst date I have experienced, when this one guy claimed that he was single while the truth came out that he was actually already married.
Well first- If I asked a question, and dared interrupt 30 minutes into his reply, I must not really want to know. Secondly, he could talk for 2 hours without needing a response from me. Third, he believed himself to be absent of bias in logic. But crazier than thatâŚ
He wasnât interested in asking what I thought about anything substantial because: 1. His experience in high school debate team meant he knew I agreed with him just by observing me while he spoke for hours (even when I actually didnât agree.) 2. When I explained that I could respect but wouldnât agree with his perspective, it was okay because he once took a Psychology class in high school, which gave him the ability to brainwash me into sharing his ârightâ opinion.
I met a guy on here! We spoke for less than 24 hrs cuz he accused me of judging him. Then, he asked me my type. I told him mostly dated hispanic guys. He then replied ohhh no black cock đ¤Śđ˝ââď¸đ¤Śđ˝ââď¸đ¤Śđ˝ââď¸đ¤Śđ˝ââď¸. Immediately blocked him.
@Glory You should report as well...
I showed up to an ice cream date and no lie, the guyâs car was half melted!! He told me it just caught fire last night. The ice cream machine was broken then he said well I guess this is doneâŚ
My very first online boyfriend ghosted me, I think that's scary. đ đ
I hang out with a girl on a date, my head hurts talking to her . Later I felt asleep
Worst dating experience. Sharing that I value a relationship with God and that itâs important to me that my partner is a Christian too. The reply: âI f###ing dig that sh#tâ.
@Nadia 𤣠not a match?
I have the ultimate, the one that will depress you. I was engaged to someone Iâd known since I was 4, he was five days older than me, weâd grown up together, when I was 20. Iâd just become a Christian and he thought the church was brainwashing me, he saw such a change in me, he also kept upsetting me so I ended our relationship, I felt God told me too. I did love him. He killed himself five years ago.
@Jacki I'm so sorry for your loss, that must've been so hard to process
Ah Jacki... love & hugs & prayers
My worst date was when the guy was telling a story and he accidentally gave me his real name - I googled him and found out he was married! Fun times!!
@Bex so sorry about that ..some people are gifted liars and cheaters .. you deserve better
@Benjamin I think so
I hope he wasnât on SALT? That would kinda be ironic đ
@Bex been there! This happened to me too! đŤŁđŤŁđŤŁđŤŁ
First date with someone who has road rage and was speeding withe in the car. Then openly admitted to having an alcohol problem. I thank God that he put a spirit in me that allows folks to be comfortable saying things they would normally try to hide. A lot of times people will say "I don't know what just made me say that" or something like that. In my head, I be like I DO! đ¤ My Father definitely don't play about me!đ¤đđ˝
Too many horrible experiences đ˘
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@Ricardo hi
Don't want to share nightmare date... but one funny one đ went to see a movie with a guy, and selected some candies , also salted licorice candies- (normal here in Finland)... I offered and fed the guy with those salty fish candies from my candy collection and he kept eating and I assume he liked licorice.... Until after the movie he said he didn't really like those candies .... but it was so funny and I still wonder why he didn't say anything during the movie 𤣠He ate many of them đ
@Susanna get that guy! â¤ď¸
I met a woman from another Christian dating site. She was actually a Buddhist and spent a lot of time trying to explain Christianity and Buddhism fit together... I dont judge someone for their faith, but that was kind of... odd.
Just remembered, I was talking to another man, and after a few weeks, he suddenly messaged, youâre well old⌠um, how am I supposed to respond to that?
This thread is so entertaining đ I guess I have been quite lucky afterall, although I did meet a guy that tried to convince me to become a nudist in our first conversation 𫣠There wasnât any second conversation after that đ
On a Christian dating app?
What id really like to know is what tiktok idiot started this trend that caused all guys under 6ft to be undateable last girl i asked out pretended to be deaf. Whats really sad is ive heard the just friends speech in so many forms that all it does now is aggravate me to no end why cant women just tell you the truth and say im sorry im just not attracted to you.
Lets see cause i could and have wrote a book on this personal favorite was driving 2.5 hours to meet someone that invited me to breakfast at her home only for her to lock the door and call the cops when i got there. Lets see then years before i had a ring thrown in my face as a girl who i had been dating for 9 months said i dont want it and i dont want you. Was also told once i was the ugliest guy a girl ever dated also overheard her say that if id just hit her she could love me.
Wow, youâre like the opposite of undercommital. Sorry if the ladiesâ reactions werenât appropriate
I have a lot too, but I will share a funny one. I ordered a goats cheese salad but I didnât know that my date was literally scared of cheese. Unbeknownst to me, he asked the waitress to remove the cheese before it came. All that was on it was lettuce and some beet and a few nuts I think. I asked the waitress for the cheese and when it came, the guy started freaking out like it was a horror movie or like he had seen a ghost đ¤Łđ¤Ł. He was a super intelligent lawyer but had a few odd quirks đ¤Ł
cheesed off was he lol
@Steven đ¤Ł
@Believer I went on a date with someone who hates tuna and had a jacket potato with tuna mayo, he didnât utter a word until weeks later, wouldnât have ordered it if Iâd known. Still friends with him now, heâs just not a Christian.
lol I actually think itâs weird that he asked the waiter to change your order without telling you đĽ´
As a teenager I travelled across country to meet someone and she had suggested ice skating. She met me off the train, we walked less than a mile to the arena and then I spent an hour trying to catch her up on the ice. We got off the ice and I went home. Barely spoke at all đ¤Łđ¤Ł not the hand holding I envisioned
A long time ago I went on a date with a guy who in real time seemed older than the age he told me on the dating app where we spoke. He lied to me. And in the end I went home regretting wasting my time with him because I didnât like him. đŠ
Bom dia a todos com a paz do Senhor Jesus
Dios le bendiga đđđ
PTSD incoming
Seems like you've had the nightmare of nightmares đ¤
I went on a date with a woman whose arrogance revealed itself quickly. She took everything I said out of context and turned it back on me during conversation. For example, I told her my eyes were hazel and changed color. Before I could get the next word out to explain that means they refract light more than other eyes do, she interrupted with, "Your eyes don't change color. They just refract light from around you." I was done by that point, so that sealed the deal. I dodged that bullet.
I think I could write a book on this, I had a woman on salt, invite me as a first date to a lecture on whale and dolphins noises with a question and answer session after, *There us nothing in my profile to suggest that this is something that would interest me* The last women to contact me seem to be testing me on Galatians 5:22-23 as out the blue she just started sending abusive messages, Iâm assuming it must of been a fake profile, it was quite funny in the end as I replied with scripture
Which she clearly didnât recognise, But I was determined not to retaliate to what she said and sink to her level, which seems to of wound her up more she
Good for you! I'm glad you dodged that bullet, the truth will reveal itself!
@Andy đ too good đŹ
This comment made laugh. There are some humorous experiences shared . Any how I hope you have or will find the person God has for you .
What's "Date"?
@Ericson a fruit, I believe.
@Scott a Perfect answer lol
@Jay haha
It wasnât exactly a date but I somehow ended up going swimming in the sea at 1am with a guy one January đĽś. Anyway you guessed it but our clothes got swept away by the sea⌠and my car keys were in my jeans pocket đ. It was never mentioned again lol
@Helen oh no!
He took me to a play, where he fell asleep before intermissionâŚ
I called things off because she was never seen without a drink in her hand and tipsy...but then she stalked me to a Bible study braai (South African BBQ) and turned up drunk and made my evening very difficult with many apologies coming from me to the host...and having to take her home.đ¤Łđ¤Śââď¸
@Jeremy oh my goodness đŤŁđŤŁ
@Jeremy Oh đą that might have been really embarrassing. A nightmare but atleast you and we all can laugh at it now đ
@Jeremy This made me laugh đ
I spoke to another man I met on here who wanted to sent me videos of him naked pretending to be a cat!!!
@Jacki that's genuinely traumatising đŹ
đđ This is really funny
@Caren I think itâs funny too⌠I didnât keep talking to him because itâs weird too but yeah, itâs funnyâŚ
@Jacki absolutely no đ¤ĄđŤŁđ
@Jacki I think you win, Iâve had some bad dates and odd introductions, but thatâs the weirdest Iâve heard so far
@Jacki ewww... Since when does George Galloway use christian dating apps?! đ§đđ
@Mega Maga George Galloway wouldnât have got a single word from me, heâs one creepy man, so was this man, he just didnât seem it on the surface. The thing is, he thought it was all fun and games, the idea of sending naked videos, just a laugh to him, I told him it wasnât funny to me but I struggle with guilt so I stayed talking to him, it wasnât until I mentioned the gift of tongues and he made a rude gesture that I blocked him.
@Mega Maga But I told him he should get on his knees and repent first because making a rude gesture in reference to the gift of tongues has to be a sin against the Holy Spirit which is the unforgivable sin, or at least bordering on it.
On salt?! That's terrifying
@Jacki hilarious 𤣠đ
I started talking to a man, saw a lot of red flags for anger issues but kept talking to him because I felt sorry for him, heâs ill but so am I, and because I felt guilty just leaving, last spoke to him on my birthday when he wished me happy birthday and then went on a tirade, getting really angry, shouting about people not caring, and his parents donât care, and God doesnât care, he just went on and on, and when I sighed from exhaustion, he said you donât care and ended the call. I blocked him.
@Jacki A belated happy birthday from us instead đ
I have too many! One was 35 & I was 27 at the time. After dinner he wanted to see a movie but my choice. The only one showing close was a thriller/horror. Spent most of the movie comforting him while he was terrified on the floor of the theatre! If anything, the movie was boring as đ
I had a date where the guy came to collect me to go out for dinner. I had baked a cake because it was his birthday.. He proceeded to say thanks, curl up on my sofa and fall asleep đ (we missed dinner đ)
@Kati can't stop lol
@Kati đ¤Łđ¤Ł wasn't me was it đ¤Ť
@Darren brave of you to show your face đ
@Kati đ just wanted to say thanks again for the cake, it was lovely - sofa was quite comfy too đ
@Darren Pleasureâs all yours..
@Darren that really should have had a friendly emoji attached đ
@Kati thank you Kati, hadn't realisedđ Happy Lord's Day đđť
This is wild
@Darren hold up...it really was you?
Hahaha I'd say your cake was so good that he instantly felt at his mom's place đ¤
I've never been on a nightmare date. I've actually been blessed with one or two great dates that were planned and led by godly christian men. Obviously, these didn't progress unto a relationship as I'm still single, but I'm grateful that the Lord blessed me with the opportunity to meet some great gentleman on this walk thus far. Great men just want us to feel safe and comfortable. We just need to give them the chance to.
I went on a date with a lad in the Army, went for a walk on the beach and then jumped a few fences to get back to the car, he went inside to get his wallet because he felt the date went well but he never came back out because he was put on court marshall for walking in the firing range with a civilian!! (Maybe he just didn't want to continue the date!)
@abigail edit, he went to get his wallet because he wanted to continue the date and go get dinner together. (I just realised I missed that part out)
Never been on one đŹ
@Shekinah someone take this beautiful young lady out!
I once dated a man who was a sloppy eater. I was quite serious about him and was willing to look past this. But I was spared, because he ultimately didn't want to commit. One time we ate at a Panera bread. He had a salad with feta cheese and dressing. As he was eating, the dressing and feta were all over his face, and he was talking too. It looked slimy. I almost threw up.
@Michelle loud eaters are the stuff of nightmares
I went on a ( friendly) coffee date with a lady off Facebook who told me she was a psychotherapist and that I'd broken my arm because I didn't get on with my mother, amongst other things. It was one of the most offensive hours of my life. I was just glad I wasn't a paying client & realised how low the bar would be for actual dating!
@Rebecca So. Many. Questions.
Never been on a date in my entire life but my experience on Salt trying to find someone to date has kind of been a nightmare to be honest. No one responds to my intros and even the few intros Iâve gotten from others the conversation doesnât last and they just end up unmatching suddenly. I do know part of it is that I donât have much in common with those that have messaged first and I think my autism makes it really difficult to carry a conversation as well.
Hey Ben, I understand where you are coming from. Being autistic also, its hard to connect with people. Be encouraged brother and wait on the Lord, thereâs a special lady out there for you.
@Alex Thanks for your input.
@Ben Test every Spirit, take what is profitable and ask the Lord what He wants you to do. God will not require this of everyone, but personally, I was commanded to end my hobbies of anime and videogaming. After I ended those things, God told me I would have a future husband.
It's totally between you and God, but if you're looking for a woman's perspective, those particular hobbies can be viewed as intrusive on the time your future partner may want to have with you. In my own case, the focus on fantasy kept me single and was unhealthy for me. It wasn't until after I stopped that I understood why God told me to.
@Michelle That's a different way to look at things. Iâve never had issues with my hobbies being unhealthy or being intrusive on my time for me personally, but I appreciate your perspective.
@Michelle really agree, though the years I have felt deeply that God has asked me to give up things that even average church culture would say is okay, but in view of eternity will be dust & ashes .... This summer I started giving up TV and I have much more inner peace ... Other things try to crowd in , but there is freedom in letting go
@Michelle Not sure I agree with this⌠I donât think someone should have to change themselves for someone to like them.
@Scott No, but if something has become an idol or taking time away from what you want more, then getting it out of your life or habits is different than changing who you are/are meant to be
Michelle has a point, I am very scared of men with a geek profile, I will always skip them, maybe I am wrong but I can't imagine life with someone spending time in front of a screen that much.
@Ben the intros thing is hard but don't take it too personally. I've received some intros from people and I really wanted to respond to thank them for their kind words but I felt quite clearly from their profile that we weren't right for each other and I didn't want to get their hopes up by matching. It's a shame there isn't a way to show appreciation for an intro to let people know it was valued even if it wasn't a match.
Lots of people do end conversations suddenly and that sucks. I recommend suggesting a call after just a few messages because it gives you a better chance to make a true impression and for you both to get a feel for each other/keep the interest up
@Millie I noticed that , really hard , someone sends you an intro you start talking, you make a call and all over a sudden they don't even message to say ,we are not a good match or anything just ghosting you ,such a shame cause I thought a Christian dating site would be different,or you match with someone you send them a hi and they never respond or even say hi, abit disappointing
@SMirembe Christian dating site is no different, from my experience with Salt so far.. It even gets more awkward when you think you are getting along well with someone and all of a sudden they unmatches you...
@SMirembe yea it's sad đ I find I have to work up a fair bit of resilience before matching so that I can be open and friendly in conversation but fully prepared for them to disappear. I don't really use this app a lot now for that reason - except the social bit! Seems like a lot of us are in the same boat, though, so it's nice to know it's not just personal and perhaps we can at least be the difference we want to see đ
@Millie thought I was the only one going through that
@Simba not at all!
@Godson yea and the fact that they don't even give you an explanation,just strange,I sometimes think the majority are on here but not serious about finding someone
@SMirembe it says more about them as a person if they do the ghosting thing, itâs a rather immature thing to do if you ask me. Itâs because people arenât willing to be vulnerable and honest and just say something like âYou look like a lovely person, but I donât think we are compatible / in alignment. All the best, I hope you find someone amazingâ. Many people Lack that emotional maturity and is not willing to be vulnerable, honest, and authentic.
My advice? Become a gym bro, then try again
@Tony Thanks for your thoughts; Iâll add them to my âno thanksâ list.
@Tony to be honest, if a guy has shirtless photos, gym photos or photos on his profile showing off his muscles, itâs more of a turnoff for women than anything else. If thatâs what a woman is looking for on a profile, then she might be looking for something else and not a true, deep connection.
@Nadia It makes sense to me to take care of the body that God gave me Nadia, but I understand it's not for everyone
@Ben we are same Ben I dont know why, I am asking my am I gonna find a woman here?