Should you split the bill 🤑

What kind of question is this? 🙄😂

I think a man should pay, he provides! Not only to show his interest but also as an act of kindness!

I think the man should pay.. it shows he can take care of you, is caring, considerate etc

I'd love to pay for both of us, not just on the first date, but every date. Once we're married, I'd like to keep things traditional: he gets pregnant with my babies, delivers them, breastfeeds and changes diapers and he should of course take care of the house and everything except working, that's my job. When I come home, I'll enjoy a home cooked healthy and delicious meal in a clean beautiful home with my love and my cute kids. All I have to care about is work, as I always have. 🤫🤣

If she is still a virgin girl and I invited her out I will take care of her and even pay for her Uber And I am not a hypocrite I Am also a virgin man and I require my future wife to also be virgin like me

Happy to pay, but equally happy to share or if she's paying. I try to gauge the situation, it usually works out somehow. It's not really important to me who pays though. It seems important to many that the guy pays, however particularly at the moment it could be difficult for people to pay for two. You often don't know what financial situation people are in. However a date doesn't necessarily need to be expensive or cost anything 🙂, for example if just going for a walk.

I have always paid but I love it when they offer so I can say NO

First date I normally invite them to a national trust property (big English country house) this gives us something to talk about as we can both have a opinion on paintings or Furniture and it keeps the conversation going, the only expense is just the coffee shop and I always offer to pay, so far every girl has wanted to pay for themselves and some have got quite annoyed that I took it upon myself to pay, despite the fact it’s a really small amount.

On the matter at hand, I firmly believe that the gentleman should take care of the bill on the first date. This not only signifies his stability and financial capability but also demonstrates his readiness for a committed relationship. Dating is a precursor to marriage, and financial stability is a crucial aspect of being prepared to start a family. It indicates the ability to be a responsible and supportive husband and father.

A Christian man pays because he is a provider. There is no other option, unless girl communicates she only wants to be friends. Let her pay then ;)

"Expectations ruin relationships"

I always offer to pay for the first date and usually do end up paying. However I expect the woman to at least offer to split the bill, even if I refuse the offer. It says a lot about her character, if she doesn't even offer then she is unlikely to get a 2nd date. Best example - I had a first date with a woman in a different city. She refused to let me pay for the meal, because she said "You took the train to come and see me, trains are expensive" - this was amazing to me, huge green flag.

No splitting AT ALL. I take care of the main events. You show me your feminine side and provide the nurturing. So if we’re going to the movies I’m getting the movie tickets 🎟 and the popcorn 🍿 but you show me you care by getting the candy 🍭 and the ice cream🍦

I always offer to split, because I think it's the right thing to do. I typically expect the guy to do the asking for a date, which would lend to him paying for the first date. But that means I grab the second or third one, or at least we start splitting it more evenly down the line.

For the first couple of dates, I think whoever asks the other person should pay the bill (unless the price is really high😂). Afterwards, I would say that each person takes turns or outright split each bill.

Yes, I believe guy should pay a date.

A man with the mentality to "provide and protect" will pay the bill. A woman with an independence mentality will offer to split 50/50. This small gesture says a lot about a person.

I prefer to split. But I live in the south (southern US), so the man will always insist on paying, and I respect that – it’s the way he was raised. If I like him, I will let him, and say I will get it next time. If I only want to be friends, I will really try hard to pay my part - but the one time a man actually let me, the waitress still put everything on his card and then smiled at me! Can’t fight the whole culture !

Yes, Split the bill(since it'll be something small). If we agree to a second date, then i will happily pay for that one. (Which would be more expensive than just an ice cream or coffee).

Always assume to split the bill unless otherwise stated before the date that "this is on me" At least for me 😬

Maybe I’m old school, but gotta love a guy who is quick to pay… Especially in the early days. Once it’s established that you’re “together” then splitting or taking turns is great.

Interesting question, 1st date I would say the man pays, maybe subsequent dates after that it's split, date one however should only be a coffee and 'chemistry','checker', so no biggy who gets the Starbucks bill 😀

Why does a date need to involve paid activities?

To be honest, I much prefer low cost dates. My whole answer is based on a coffee or ice cream date. I feel uncomfortable having someone spend more than that on me. I’m pretty frugal and don’t like to cost someone anything either. I would take some convincing to let someone buy me dinner. I’d just feel really bad.. 🤷‍♀️ If they really wanted to treat me when we are dating, then I’d appreciate it if I was sure they wanted to. I would never someone to feel obligated to spend on me.

No, on splitting the bill. I believe the gentleman should pay.

I think talking about it beforehand is important because some people prefer to do different things based off of different factors in their life which is 100% okay. My huge pet peeve, however, is when either party makes paying the bill conditional or is heavily expected by either person. Regardless, I always bring my wallet just in case and don’t mind paying fully or partially as communicated

Personally, the first date is more of a get to know each other more so either grabbing a cheap coffee, then the second date would happily pay

I think it depends on how long I’ve known them (as I’d feel awkward early on) but I will always offer. It helps if it’s been made clear before because you don’t have that awkward bit when it’s time for the bill. Although with friends I occasionally sneak off and pay because I want to bless them.

Personaly i would offer to pay i think if u tell me u got it ima let u get it lol

If it's your idea to go out for a meal (aka you choose the place and time) then you should be prepared to pay for the meal. But I also think who ever you're with owes you for something else like getting you two coffee or paying for a movie

I think first dates should be fairly simple, and both parties should be willing to pay their share. However, it is courteous for the initial asker (male or female) to offer to treat their date.

I might be the only one who feels this way, but until I know the person, i pay for myslef. It feels like I am emdebted to the person if they pay for my meal. That makes me very uncomfortable and I get in my head about it even without meaning to. So if I have been with the person for a while, it is easier to let them pay for me. But if I am just meeting them, 100% I'm paying for myself.😅

I feel really special (valued) when the man pays 🥰 and in my experience, most times he does.

I am actually a bit put off if a woman doesn't HONESTLY, attempt to pay. Eventhough I'm more than happy to Especially when I've had a good time. I wouldn't turn up anywhere expecting people to pay for me unless they've specifically said 'my treat' or agreed beforehand.

I will never expect to be paid for and will always offer to pay for my share. However, I do really appreciate if a guy wants to pay. I have no problem paying for myself and will go prepared to, but if a guy asks to go for coffee, and we go dutch,, I’ll we are just friends. So I won’t expect it even if it’s supposed to be a date. However if someone asks to take someone out, like even if I ask to take my friend out for ice cream or coffee, to me that implies that I’m going to pay for her.

On a first date, a Man should pay the bill of course and that's non negotiable 😊

Call me old fashioned 😄 but I think when it comes to the first date, the guy should pay. When it’s the second, third and beyond dates, the couple should split the bill. 💵💶💴💷

Go for a walk and bring a picnic.. there, controversy over 😄

I would feel too stressed if he payed for the whole thing. I would end up ordering the cheapest thing on the menu. I would much rather split it.

I believe it's the responsibility of the pursuer to pay until there is a committed relationship and even then the man should be paying as part of his provisional side. However with the caveat that I don't have expensive taste and I don't believe in taking advantage of a man not his finances. Also I advocate that women should step into their nurturing roles when he is in his provisional roles. It's unfair to expect him to play a role but you are not ready to play your role.

I have to say, I don’t really care if he pays or if we spilt. I certainly don’t expect him to! But I think it shows generosity if either gender offers to pay. Let’s focus on enjoying company instead of money!

First date should be a coffee so not expensive and if it goes well then maybe a lunch. I like it when the man offers to pay but will always offer to pay half, if they say no to splitting I thank them kindly and let them pay as it is gentlemanly to offer.

I think to eliminate blowing tons of money on first dates that it's better to just go out and get coffee or do a fun activity rather than spend loads of money at somewhere expensive. I'm old fashioned and still believe in chivalry that a guy usually pays but learning from my past it can almost leave you broke too. So that's when communication is key.

Given the time we have had, and this will sound brash since it's happened before 📨, I have a good time with them and vice versa I pay. If it was a bad time, then we split it or if not... I pay anyway and say to myself "I've paid for them to stay out of my life now" Otherwise I'm very picky with who I take on a date. Love Jesus first before you love me. God first always ✝️⚡️

Personally, I will never let someone pay anything towards a date, but I will be picky about who I take or go on a date with.

The man is likely to initiate the date so he should pay

If costs are high on a first date (unlikely) then it’s reasonable to split them. If it’s a coffee or a drink, the man should pay 🙂

I think on first date the guy should pay. Then other dates sometimes offer yo split it or pay yourself if it's organized by you.