It really depends on what it is they donât like about the person. It also depends if theyâre in the Word or not but be sure to use discernment and pray about it for confirmation. God knows better than any of us do so ultimately itâs not up to them but Him đđ˝
Sou ĂłrfĂŁo e nĂŁo tenho familiares pra questionar.
Iâm pretty sure your parents would not approve of me. But I can guarantee you that life spend with me will be your best life. Just not that rich and prosper one though
@Isabel - Team SALT It depends why they disapprove. If itâs coz they donât like a tattoo or think you shouldnât like their physical features, you need to make a choice. If itâs coz they are an addict of some kind, abusive, rude, donât share your faith, etc you need to listen.
If my church family, or their family, disapproves- itâs probably a no for me.
@Valerie Hello Valerie, Understand your perspective but as a 65 year old woman I would not let disapproving family or friends be a final determination of my decision. I am a very particular person when it comes to dating men, perceptive and do not let others sway me against my innate God given intuition. đđ
Ask why they don't approve and listen. But the final decision is yours. A friend had several people express concern about her ex but she excused their concerns away. Unfortunately it was after the wedding that she learned they were right the hard way. On the other hand, my sister-in-law's family were antagonistic towards my brother for several years but she stayed with him and they have been happily married for several years now. Even her family has warmed up to him since the wedding.
Whilst I tend to agree that the input of trusted and Godly friends and family is invaluable, the ultimate decision must be between the couple involved. I have seen situations of interfering family destroy potentially great relationships by not letting go of their adult children. There needs to be balance.
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I think it depends on the family/friends. Like if they are super discerning⌠Iâd take note. If theyâre kinda superficial, meh, not so much. I have one friend that if she thinks someone is wrong for me, Iâd immediately reevaluate and quite possibly end the relationship, as she is super spot on with discernment and words of knowledge. Another friend, sheâs pretty far off the mark in her assessments of people that I wouldnât trust her if she said somethingâŚ
If they all care about you and love you, if they always gave you good advices and if they are aligned with the Holy Spirit discernment, then yes you should listen to them cause they may see (from an external point de vue ) things and behaviour you donât
Yes, but not everyone. đ In my case, there are only 4 people whose opinion I value and take serious consideration: God, my pastor, my son, and my dad. Because I know they love me, they are the ones who know me well and have my best interest at heart to protect me. When we are dating someone it is sometimes difficult to âseeâ what others can clearly see, because emotions get in the way and blur our judgement, so I need objective and sound input. Basically, if they donât approve, I donât date.âşď¸
Difficult question if your family is dysfunctional and your group of friends keep changing. I was starting to have a stable community around me but then Covid changed that. When Iâm around people enough, they do notice that I way I relate to relationships is a bit troublesome. Iâve come to terms with that, understanding that Iâve unfortunately come from a place of dysfunction. My only hope is to keep looking to the healthy relationship dynamic Jesus has with the Father and the Holy Spirit.
As well as to the Gospel seeking for God to heal me from my brokenness. I feel my dating life to be a bit â¨alternative⨠but God can make all things work together for good (Romans 5:28) so I donât have to stress too much over it. If you have a healthy family or a trustworthy group of friends who are dear and close to you, who know you, Iâd say, yeah their input is valid.
Yes. As others have said, there should be a valid reason family and friends don't like your date, but also they know you so well, I'd assume there was something true about their concerns, if it were me. They absolutely should be involved on some level with an opinion on the person - they're only looking out for you.
You should only consider the opinions of people that are truly and genuinely for YOU! Those that have proven over the years that they deeply love and care for you and you can definitely trust them.
The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, But a wise man is he who listens to counsel. â Proverbs 12:15 Your friends and family (assuming in the Lord or at least care about you) are part of your wise counsel.
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It depends on the reasons, they canât just say âwe hate him/herâ and have no reason.. if someones saying that, itâs for a reason and then you have to honestly listen to the reasoning.. then of course youâll take notice or not based on whatâs been said.. itâs pretty common sense tbh đ
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Itâs important to pay attention to this. Could it be that God is guiding them to help me gain insights I might be missing?
