Too much choice on dating apps? 🧐

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It’s difficult if you live in a rural area. I just want a godly man who loves God more than me but I keep getting people from NY and IL where I will never realistically meet them.

We should have more interaction to be able to meet people. Maybe in a future, idk. I haven't received a response from someone yet, it's to limited to have a convo...

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My first comment don't show here? Also table events do not let me log in through the app. Have a working dating app and that you allow the matches and possibilities would help also . Right now it doesn't work well.

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Well, depends really. I am a pickly guy but the way the app is giving me some wrong denominations and some not whom I am seeking for. Ie. I am seriously seeking for the woman to marry and have kids. Some say they do but only friendship and that is not what I want. They do want to marry but friends inly. No thanks. And sone are bit rude wben I was creating very unique profile and I got upset! I am creative so leave me alone! Let me use creativiry to get my bride!

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I think it depends on the person, but mostly due to the ease of choice we have in these apps, it makes us more picky, even if we aren't normally picky. It's like something that sticks with us unintentionally sometimes.

For those living in urban areas (e.g. London) there seems to be a large pool of people, but in small towns and rural areas, there’s few and so distance is an issue. The dating app culture means someone can be easily dismissed/overlooked as there’s another profile a swipe away. I try to remain open, find a common interest and see what they say about their faith (though with short answers it’s hard to gauge how serious they are). It’s difficult enough without being “picky” about non-dealbreakers.

Apps are hit or miss. Also people don’t always tell the truth online learned the hard way. Plus everyone ghosts these days and lots of fake profiles as well to watch out for.

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I don't wanna a lots of matches, I just need one. The one who will know me and love me.

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If it were easy to find like-minded singles in real life, a lot fewer people would be using these apps! And I think being too picky comes from having expectations that don't match reality, which is a deeper problem and not much fault of the dating app.

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Perhaps the very nature of dating apps is casual which is an oxymoron with Christian dating to say the least. It would be easier if the profiles that we see were better matched in some way - perhaps Christian matchmakers (like the Jewish matchmakers) could be the way forward. 😀 I think I could be good at that job if SALT wants to hire me 😂

It's hard either way. So although I'm not a huge fan of apps, I'm using it to get out there.

My faith in God makes me picky which sometimes if I'm honest is frustrating.

ultimatley everyone on here is a human and not perfect the perfect partner doesnt exist i think sometimes people need to be given a chance if we dont allow that becuse we dont get an instant spark we can miss a great relationship

If looking for someone to potentially spend our lives with yes we should be picky as it’s a pretty big decision. Also you don’t want to waste people’s time if you think they are very unlikely to be a match. In real life you may consider people you probably wouldn’t on the app as you get to know them personally but when judging by what people write/ photos only you try to not go for people who on paper are not a match. I think apps are great as we have a small pool.

This is all so interesting because life is about personal accountability; something we can't do on our own, but need to seek and rely on the Lord to guide and show us how to live. How much candy do you buy at the grocery store? How fast do you drive when you're late? What time do you get to work every day? Regardless of the choices in front of us, our singular focus should be to seek God's guidance. People that abuse dating apps abuse other things in their life as well. It's not the app's fault.

Dating apps are a connection node, one that allows me to connect with people outside my circles. (My church of 80 have 3 people between 30-40 who attend regularly) What made me "picky" with commitment is the lessons I have learnt from in-dating experience. If you date seriously for a life partner with no intention to divorce, what matters cannot be vet and chosen on apps: trust, respect, appreciation, affection, consistency, kindness, empathy, devotion, [TRACKED], and misc qualities.

I am picky but when I choose one I stick with it for life. What I noticed a lot on dating nowadays is people choose someone and only stick with them as long as it is comfortable and hop to the next. This practice is ruining and hurting dating/relationship for everyone. Worst part, they aren't removed from the pool, which keeps them hoarding people to them. This is usually a sign of a red flag for me.

Both. - I believe given what marriage is, it’s pretty reasonable to be picky about some things. So long as those things are indeed, reasonable. - Practicing Christians are a tiny fraction of the societies we live in, despite what our countries’ censuses may report. The Christian dating pool is small. Aside from that, I actually like the concept of apps- because unlike in real life you know the person you’re talking to is single/perhaps interested 😅

I personally think I’d be “picky” regardless of choice. My preferences are my preferences and since I live in an age where I am not dependent on a man to survive, I suppose I may afford to be selective. Compare the way we live now to Edwardian times, say. I would have to think about the continuation of my own life if I turned a man down, would another ever offer to take me on as a financial burden? Now…my world in terms of fundamental comforts continues unchanged if a relationship fails.

Unfortunately social media and dating apps changed relationships for worse. Women get addicted to attention they are getting from men and in result can not settle and appreciate one man who wants to build a serious relationship with them.

I think it is good to have many choices and have a personal preference as well. But the most important thing is to use discernment. It helps a lot in choosing the right one! :)

I believe we do get extremely picky. We're basically sending out a resume of our life, habits, likes, etc. During my parents days and grandparents days you had to actually either meet them in public, work, school etc and get to know them by introduction and personality. Now it's a profile. You're choosing what you hope is right but in reality we may be completely off. I don't want to play the field I just want to be with one person that I can give worth too and they can give the same to me.

I'm in a pretty small dating pool where there's like only a few single guys in all of my circles combined, and some aren't interested in dating, then the others we mutually decided it wasn't a good fit.

I think they may have made people too picky it feels like you have to a whole heap of boxes and if you dont you get thrown in the bin and moved on it was probably easier in our parents generation when people got out and met people and built friendships that lead to romantic relationships i guess that might be the answer but this social part seems to be a good adition its a chance to talk rather then mindless swiping

Great question, @Isabel - Team SALT . My view is that here in Australia, at least, the latter is more applicable. Certainly, at my age and stage of life, the pool might accurately be described as infinitesimally miniscule. Be they a necessary solution or not, dating apps do feel somewhat akin to online shopping. The pictures look alright, the "descriptions" sound okay, but you never quite know what you're getting until you can see the "merchandise" in person.