I wouldn’t say hate for this…. But moving houses is really challenging as a single person. Pulling suitcases and some large stuff… I didn’t think I would ever wish to have someone to help each other during this sort of events.
Ministry...I travel by myself, can enjoy a day out, etc. but there's power when a man and woman together in ministry making it a well-balanced system and all the more fulfilling
Always doing everything by myself.
I think it’s the wanting someone to share highs and lows with who prioritizes you (and vice versa). Someone to brainstorm a problem’s solution with, share an emotional load, care for when the other person is unwell, etc. It’s also the deep want for someone to truly and deeply witness my life and know mr (and again, vice versa)
Another thing is ; married people who don’t know you - assum things ie ; you’re flirting with their man. Or once I walked up to a visitor to our church who gave a really great talk and gave references to a book . I went to ask the preacher if he could give me the book reference and the wife emerged and pulled him away . I felt really bad . I am no harm to anybody ; I’ve been happily single 14yrs and would be happy single another 14yrs . This behaviour made me sad 😞. I’ve noticed this behaviour
My problem is - I’m totally happy in my own skin and happy living the single life but when doing things like making tough personal decisions and not being able to run it by someone ; doing things alone when it would be so much better doing as a couple ie spots ; tennis etc ; Diy stuff ok no good at . Otherwise life is a bliz. With Jesus .
I can't think of any...I enjoy every bit of it
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Going out with my friends and been the one who is alone 😂🥺
Raising my children alone.
Agreed!
Going to a wedding and made to sit on a table with couples
The fact that I feel I feel so uncomfortable doing stuff like going out for coffee or food by myself! 😓
Traveling and eating out. I still travel by myself because I like traveling too much 😜 but I still can’t eat in restaurants by myself, I find it too depressing.
Loneliness. Someone who can be in my corner.
Not sure hate is the right word but I think weekends are hard… Especially if you have no plans… Sometimes they are great but sometimes you wish somebody was there with you to explore new places with.
Coming home after church to lounge alone 😔
Going to church 😒
Playing scrabble.. the competition is just too much 🤓
Going to church.. I long to be able to pray and receive the Eucharist alongside the person God has willed for me! 🙏🏻
Want to understand the life of a leper? Go to church as a single parent 🙄
@Ana 😔.
@Martin 🙏
@Ana on a different note, your photos are all lovely.
@Martin Aw thank you, that’s very kind 😊 I enjoyed reading your profile too!
@Ana sometimes you try so hard not to stare at the most beautiful women in the room that you end up looking like you are ignoring them altogether 🙏
@Danny I only know this is true, because I do the same thing! 😅
@Ana, I imagine you are quite often the most beautiful woman in the room, so don't be disheartened. The lucky man might just be right under your nose 🙏 God bless you
@Danny aww bless you that's very kind. I appreciate the encouragement, and I pray the same for you too! 🙏❤️🔥💯
@Ana yes!
@GD keep ya head up mama! 🫶♥️✝️
@Ana Thank you dear. We're not alone in this.
@GD BTW. Love your profile.
@GD aww thank u, I genuinely enjoyed reading yours too! 🥰
Everything
Going on a couple‘s date - alone… Though I get two eat for two.
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Going to weddings! I recently went to one and the couple invited people to dance, I was the only one left on my table 🫠
Oh no!
Going to the tip/recycling centre on my own - once I successfully load my car, drive there and sometimes queue, I need to throw it in a container. I could invite friends to help but not many would come. I don't mind a bit of lifting but the tip is awkward. Where I lived before they played upbeat music and the staff would come and help so you would drive away with a sense of triumph.
Like most people, It’s loneliness and finding where you fit it. I’m in my forties and go to quite a large church, do I sit with people my age who are talking about the kids and school, or do I sit with the 20-30 year olds I’m in a different life stage to both groups I enjoy travelling and whilst being single means I can backpack round Europe and during the day I can do my own thing, the evenings are difficult eating in restaurants on your own
While yes, men can hang out with other men in a buffalo lodge type of social environment, it is not the same as taking a walk, bikeride and going for a nice dinner, church with someone for whom I can a deeper spiritual and emotional connection. God made men and women to complement one another and I enjoy just listening to a soft spoken Godly woman share her dreams, her faith and her perspective on the Christian life. It is also nice to know someone likes me and wants to spend time with me.
I know it’s shallow but having to pay for everything myself. I’m a single mom and sometimes it would be nice to have a second income to where it isn’t a struggle every month. Just to be able to afford to live and every once in a while take a nice vacation🤷🏼♀️
Loneliness. Having to go to church alone, have dinner alone, go to the supermarket alone and other routines. Loneliness.
@Lion so true. When trying to have a conversation.
@Lion so many guys for you in the Church
I think the thing I hate, that makes me the loneliest, is not being able to share everyday things. I travel and eat out solo quite happily, but I can’t really talk to anyone about the day. It’s not quite the same sharing funny or beautiful moments by call/text because they weren’t there. I’d love to experience these things with another. I do travel with friends occasionally but it’s harder to do now we all have different schedules and commitments!
@Amanda yup, this! I like my independence but being alone and being lonely are two different things. You can be indipendent and still lonely! I agree being content is certainly biblical, but in my experience it's a little more complicated than someone saying, oh just be content. ^ good point that one 😊
Lot of events at church is for kids or couples. And I prefer cook for two, don’t eat much because I am usally alone.
@Serenity I don't eat much either, but I love barbecue
@Kelly Jaqueline da Silva Dias I live on farm and get fresh eggs. So I mostly cook breakfast foods for myself.
Nothing, being single is brilliant! 😄 Ok..the dishes, that's it
@Tony kkkkk
Going weddings, want to dance 💃🏻
@Alejandra yes, I understand the wedding part.
@Josh 😩
Going church alone.
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@dins 😁
Being surrounded by couples, going to weddings, going to churches where marriage and family are put on a pedestal (fortunately my church isn’t like that, though it’s still difficult at times). Essentially being in an environment where the thoughts/feelings of singles haven’t been considered, or singleness is made into an issue where it becomes “them and us”.
The little things! Awk is there anything nicer than someone making ya a lovely cuppa tea the way you like it and bringin it to ya with a wee forehead kiss?!😄☕️👩❤️👨
Missing THAT HUG
Having to laugh at my own jokes. I know someone else would enjoy these
Pulling up the invisible zipper on a dress 👗
@Adeola Or undoing it … after one wedding I was a bridesmaid at I had to call one of the other bridesmaids at some ridiculous hour to come let me out of my dress!🤣
Hahaha. Turning and twisting like a pretzel, maximum effort, zero result 😂
@Adeola l know exactly what you mean, it’s such a struggle
Certainly I find sorting out someone to holiday with can be a challenge and having to book certain gender balanced holidays or events way in advance as a single lady. Also I can feel lonely at significant times of the year as a single.
Holding up my own sign at the airport to welcome myself home 😩😆
I guess having BOGO like coffee, milk tea, and other kinds of food that are on BOGO. 😅 I can only enjoy and finish one. 😇😂
Hate is a fairly strong word...I wouldn't apply that particular epithet here, but a...challenge...as a single is folding a fitted sheet well...
@Chris 😂
Easy!
Scratching my own back can be challenging without a backscratcher 😂
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@Troy Gotta add looking for a backscratcher to your profile.
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😆😆🤣🤣😂 I relate only in the sense of zipping up or unzipping a fitted dress. Unfortunately, I do not know a gadget for that , unlike your situation 😕 😁😅
I love being single. One of the reasons why I’m single 😌
Funnily enough I genuinely can't think of anything I hate doing single (something I didn't actually realise until reading this question😊). Saying that, I can think of lots of things I would like to do as part of a couple though (city breaks, visiting friends, family events, going to festivals and of course Bible study/ prayer etc). God willing I get to do so. 🙏🏾🥰
Changing the bed sheets 🙄😄
Scratching in the very middle of my back. Although I find sharp edges it’s just not the same as a personal back scratcher from time to time 😁
The dishes!
@Tony a dishwasher would do!
Nothing. I've travelled abroad by myself, been to restaurants by myself....
Shopping at Christmas time, also thunki
thinking you could have a pet, but nobody would be there besides you to take care for it 😅.
Eating out! It’s a little challenging wanting to try new foods by yourself 🤣
Travelling abroad! I want to travel with the one I love for sure! 🥺🫶
@Sophie gotta take a risk and swipe right 🙃
Definitely travelling. As much as I love solo holidays it can limit what you can do. I'm heading to London next week and there are some places I'd feel awkward going on my own :/
@Dave you'll be alright. Just say a few cockney words and order tea Where ever you go you'll fit right in. 😆. Maybe wear your backpack back to front in crowds. 🤔😅Where you coming from?
@M sounds like a plan 😂 I live in Sussex, only an hour away on a train so I go that way all the time
Travelling. I'm lookimg forward to the day when I can discover a new city with my beloved (future) wife. Although I enjoy solitude, it must be much more enjoyable to travel with your spouse.
Groceries and cooking are up there for sure! I can't buy large packs of anything, fruits and veggies go bad if I'm not on top of them, if I do batch cooking I get tired of eating the same foods... And all the cleaning that comes after 😂 Also, going to the gym - it is so much harder to go on my own than it would be to have someone "pushing" me. I know you don't need a girlfriend for this, but I don't have any gym buddies either 😬
@César I so understand! Maybe you could find a market in your neighbourhood where you can choose to buy a smaller ammount?🤔I sometimes buy like one onion on market ;)))
@Raphaela yes, I've ended up doing that, but it's quite annoying going every other day to get three tomatoes and two apples 😂 Love to see, compare prices, and listen to some music on my headphones to make it more interesting 😁
@César 😄yeah I get that
