Just now getting to this. Vivian, I think you have very good intentions and goals. I would echo one other post, and consider men who are widowed and have children. Maybe that already is something you would consider, and I misunderstood something however. Bottom line, I agree with a lot of your stances already. Hope that is some encouragement.
You will find your one @Vivian ... You are still way too young. I am even over 40 but I know who I would like to do life with and haven't married but I do have one child...and I have my ideal man too.....
@Viv You know what....great minds think alike girl 😉 your name is beautiful by the way
@Vivian you welcome my angel. Thank you for complimenting my name...cz I am also Vivian💖
Short answer, to find godly men, you need to go to a reformed church. Men of God won't be attending feminized churches where Eros is preached on Sunday. On the other hand, there seems to be no places left to meet women who are seeking excellence in Christ.
@Mike Eros? I haven't attended any church that preaches about that
@Vivian I use that illustratively. Many churches teach a worship of feelings, a formerly conservative group such as Acts 29 is notorious for this (for example)
@Mike there are literally thousands of such places, just few your age. We can't keep ignoring the elephant in the room.
There are a lot of new converts to Orthodox Christianity in the US right now. And they are mostly single men; extremely dedicated to Christ. Many come from Protestant background.
Okay, yes, what is with the guys who are like "I've been led away from the faith, but I'm looking for someone to lead me back." Boy, you walked away by your own volition, and I'm not about to walk away with you. It's just so disheartening.
@Elizabeth Exactly! I've seen a video where it said true godly men don't need instruction but carry out action. It seemed to resonate because it's true! I don't want to babysit a new Christian into the faith because that would be unequal yolkes. I grew up in the church and I already have my foundation in it
It is difficult, Vivian, because you are eleven years older than biology intended for you to get married. At this point you have far fewer options and less momentum to get over the roadblocks. God intended for marriage in youth, and for thousands of years that was the norm. Now we all must work harder if we miss that for whatever reason. (Usually bad teaching from churches about "waiting")
@Mathew this is very unhelpful. Can we try and be more supportive as a community
@Mathew nah actually this is just rude
@Mathew imagine telling someone you have ‘less options and less momentum’ and are 11 years older than biology intended. With no support and kindness in the comment. Do better Matthew 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
@Hannah she asked why it is difficult. I gave an honest, helpful answer. If you don't like it, sorry.
Shout-out to my fellow Florida girlie! There's fewer devout Christian men out there than non devout Christian men. It takes time and patience to meet them. I get told by the men who don't meet my standards that my standards are too high. Their opinion means nothing to me because I meet my own standards I have for the man I'm looking for. As long as you meet your standards like not being divorced, child free, also devout, then you're completely fine. You aren't being a hypocrite. Best wishes💗!
Don’t lower your standards. Regarding sex, I’d look past those who have made past mistakes, but if you mean guys who even now are still wanting some… yeah you’re right to unmatch/report. As time goes on, the likelihood of meeting someone without baggage slowly decreases, but at your age I don’t think your preferences are unreasonable at all. Personally I reckon the rooted guy you’re looking for, with a mature belief… won’t be in a pentecostal church. Hang in there!
I'm curious to know why you believe he wouldn't be in a Pentecostal church.
@Yoshi My experiences and observations of most pentecostal/charismatic churches are they have zeal without knowledge, feelings over faith and supposed manifestations of the Spirit that don’t line up with what the Bible describes the Spirit as operating like. But on the other hand, I know plenty of reformed, evangelical or ‘biblical’ churches that have plenty of head knowledge about God, but lack the heart knowledge. The mature believer is somewhere in the middle I reckon.
@Lachlan Ah ok. I've noticed that too. I agree the mature believer will have both head and heart knowledge. Normally, the mature believers who have both have been a believer for over 10 years in my experience. I have had met one person in the past who was already like this after only being a believer for 3 years. They're more uncommon to meet.
Those are very reasonable things to ask for and it's ok to have these standards. You may be waiting longer than your friends but there are plenty men who are in the same boat as you. Just keep playing about it and working towards your goal. If finding the right one was easy we wouldn't appreciate how lucky we are to have that person.
Praying about it not playing about it lol.
You gotta lower your preference lol..! too many….
I think you might be being a little too strict in your preference. What if what you want isn’t want isn’t what God wants for you? What if God has a widowed or divorced man of God who has children for you?
@Jacki i am a divorced man with 2 kids it was not my decision to divorce my wife she found someone new, I can’t go back In time and I was a virgin when we met but that was 15 yrs ago
