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Anonymous
Sat Jun 22 2024

Would you date someone your not physically attracted to?

Would you consider dating someone you don't have chemistry with hoping it might develop? how important should looks and physical attraction be for us Christian's? is the lack of chemistry what ends up putting someone in the friend zone? or do other factors play out too? love to know your thoughts and stories! both men and women be interested to see if there is a big difference!

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Jess

I would want to find something in their faith or personality attractive even if not physical. But I do believe you need to find your partner physically attractive at some point

Sun Jun 23 2024
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Jess

I think that relationships make people attracted to us. When I’ve dated previously I didn’t initially find them attractive and was even accused of friend zoning but they became attractive to me because of who they were

Sun Jun 23 2024
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Anonymous

@Jess great point thanks for sharing jess

Mon Jun 24 2024
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Leanne

I dated someone recently who was not in my eyes 'my type' but I felt it was only right to get to know him and low behold as I did he became attractive. I taught we a great lesson. :)

Sun Jun 23 2024
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Anonymous

@Leanne love that! Thanks for sharing Leanne

Sun Jun 23 2024
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Jude

There is no such thing as an ugly rich man 🙃

Sun Jun 23 2024
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Anonymous

I think there are people who put greater emphasis on different attributes whether personality or physical appearance, so for some people it is genuinely harder to want to be with someone if you can't tolerate being with them because of their appearance. Physical attraction just can't be the ONLY thing that matters in the relationship. For instance, I highly regard physical attraction, but I require things like kindness and receptiveness to even consider a relationship.

Sun Jun 23 2024
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Anonymous

Thanks Jeremy, its definitely a mixture of things that are important looks only get you so far for sure thanks for sharing

Sun Jun 23 2024
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Ana

I believe if he is from God, then God will give me an attraction to him. Inside and out.

Sat Jun 22 2024
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Anonymous

@Ana so true thanks Ana

Sun Jun 23 2024
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Ana

@Anonymous 🙏:)

Sun Jun 23 2024
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Amanda

No

Sat Jun 22 2024
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Anonymous

So while physical attraction is important, seeking God and godly fruit in a potential spouse is in my opinion more important. God can transform your perspective on beauty. But we also shouldn’t ignore or deny the importance of physical attraction in a marriage relationship. It is a gift from God to delight physically in your spouse and so we shouldn’t “settle” or try to force ourselves to like someone we aren’t attracted to. But we should let God lead us.

Sat Jun 22 2024
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Anonymous

And marriage is meant to include an intimate physical expression of love that certainly involves physical attraction. So you should be physically attracted to the person you marry. However, there are times where guys I have found physically attractive become almost repulsive because of ungodly behaviors. And guys who don’t fit my personal preferences become much more attractive due to godly attributes.

Sat Jun 22 2024
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Anonymous

I think this is a great question! I believe that attraction is a gift from God and is an important aspect of marriage relationships. We should be kind, respectful and loving of everyone even if we don’t find them physically attractive. We should not be driven by our flesh, and certainly should be looking for the spiritual fruit of a shared faith in Christ above physical attraction. That said, God created us with individual views of physical beauty…

Sat Jun 22 2024
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Anonymous

@Ali Joy thanks Ali some great points

Sat Jun 22 2024
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Gary's avatar
Gary

Nope

Sat Jun 22 2024
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Chris

That's a really good question. My gut feeling is: no. I think that if I'm not attracted to a lady, I'm more inclined to be polite and courteous, but not consider anything beyond that. Having said that, however, there have been situations in my life where it felt like a switch was flicked, and all of a sudden, a lady I'd not really noticed before looked quite attractive. It is strange. I can't really explain it better than that.

Sat Jun 22 2024
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Anonymous

@Chris totally get that Chris thanks for sharing! interesting how suddenly that switch did flick on I'm sure I can relate to that too.

Sat Jun 22 2024
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Anonymous

@Chris Yes and it can happen in a moment, too. Sometimes all it requires is one little thing to be seen or brought up, and we're hooked.

Sun Jun 23 2024
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