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Thu Dec 12 2024

My divorce story

We were both raised in Christian homes and became Christians in our youth. We met in a vibrant church small group in our late 20s. It was not love at first sight but friendship blossomed after a year or so. One day, he told me that he was interested in being more than friends. I challenged him to pray about it and seek counsel from our pastor. He came back convinced that it was what God was calling him to do. Our pastor was excited about the prospect of us dating. I liked him and felt the same sense of peace after my own praying and seeking counsel, so we started dating. We became such good friends and could talk for hours on end about anything and everything. We fell in love and eventually got engaged after 16 months. We went through marriage counselling sessions with our pastor and his wife and our pastor married us 10 months after getting engaged.

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Nnamdi

When you see a person you like and preferred.... don't just jump into fornication with that individual like people of the world do. But rather seek the face of the Lord God in prayers for him to REVEAL to you who this person you just met really is. Because divorce and remarry + remarry is not acceptable by the holy God Don't be deceived brethren

Fri Dec 13 2024
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M's avatar
M

@Nnamdi Agree to the first half. But The Lord does allow remarriage. 👀

Sat Dec 14 2024
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Nnamdi

Dear sister in Christ.... please may I know the kind of Bible you are using 🤷 Please show us the verse in the scriptures where the Messiah and his apostles encourages REMARRY + REMARRY+REMARRY etc. Thank you 👍

Sat Dec 14 2024
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Neriah

Is there a rest of the story somewhere as it seems the story ends at engagement?

Fri Dec 13 2024
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Jude's avatar
Jude

@Neriah scroll all the way down to the 1st comment

Fri Dec 13 2024
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Jude

Great post! Thanks heaps for sharing. You are loved by Christ - and He is your righteousness. How old are you now? I hope that’s okay to ask since you’re ‘anonymous’. Give us a range. What do you mean by “he walked away from God”?

Thu Dec 12 2024
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Anonymous

@Jude Thank you. I appreciate you pointing me back to Jesus. Age range mid 30s now. It is quite complicated to try to summarise, so that was the best way I could think of. Essentially, he no longer identifies as being a Christian and has become very hostile towards believers in general as well as anything relating to what scripture teaches. I believe part of this reason is to evade any accountability.

Mon Dec 16 2024
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Jude

@Anonymous Was he born and raised Christian? What are his objections to Christianity?

Mon Dec 16 2024
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Val's avatar
Val

Thank you for sharing and your vulnerability in this post!

Thu Dec 12 2024
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Anonymous

It was something that was on my heart that day Val. Thank you.🙏🏾

Mon Dec 16 2024
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Gabriela

Didn't he want to go to counseling? At the beginning he was open for.

Thu Dec 12 2024
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Anonymous

I'm not sure what purpose this question serves in my present situation. I think you have missed the whole point of my post Gabriela.

Thu Dec 12 2024
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Cheryl

Thank you for taking the time to share so vulnerably with us all. I am sorry you had to experience such a heart ache. May God continue to bless you throughout your healing in all areas of your Life. May God pour His blessings of Peace and Tranquility daily in your everyday walk.

Thu Dec 12 2024
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Anonymous

@Cheryl Thank you so much, that is very kind. God has been so faithful to me that I continually stand in awe of how far he has brought me. May he pour out his love & mercy over you and your life also.💖

Thu Dec 12 2024
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Anonymous

You may not choose to date us, and that is absolutely fine, but please remember that we are also created in the image of the same God many of you profess to follow. We are just as deserving of love, kindness, and respect as someone who has never been married. We are not 'second class' citizens in the Christian dating world. To my fellow divorcees, please do not sell yourself short in the dating process. Your identity is rooted in Jesus& the right man or woman will value this first and foremost.

Thu Dec 12 2024
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Anonymous

I did not ask for a divorce but I am now a divorcee whether I like it or not. My plea to some is please be kind when you come across those who are divorced on this platform. It takes a lot of courage to put yourself out there again when you have been through the trauma of a marriage breakdown. I never thought it would happen to me but it did and it has been a humbling process. No two experiences of divorce are the same so please don't make assumptions without knowing the circumstances.

Thu Dec 12 2024
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Anonymous

It was a wonderful gospel centred ceremony which we shared with our loved ones. We had sex for the first time on our wedding night in our new apartment. We chose to wait until after we were married to live together and those first few days of living together were perfect. We did everything 'by the book' but my husband still walked away from God and divorced me. I fought with every fibre of my being to save my marriage but God had other plans.

Thu Dec 12 2024
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M

@Anonymous Thank you for sharing this. This exact topic was mentioned during a table talk yesterday or a few days ago I think. You must have had so many questions at the time. Like why is this happening. Especially since you did everything right. Looking back do you think he was a real believer or just acting as one?

Thu Dec 12 2024
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Anonymous

Oh really? I still have lots of questions to this day but I've learned to accept that the eternal fate of my ex is between him and God and not for me to spend my days pondering. I still pray for him that he would turn back to God but I will never know if those prayers will result in that happening.

Thu Dec 12 2024
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M

@Anonymous Yes it comes up from time to time. Most people are quite gracious. Theres a talk on Sundays called dating after darkness which sometimes focuses on that exact topic. Bless you sis x

Fri Dec 13 2024
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Neriah

@Anonymous I pray your heart heals beautifully and that you find within you the strength to stand firm but more than that I pray your hearts desires will be fulfilled. Your latter will be greater

Fri Dec 13 2024
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Anonymous

@Neriah Thank you for your kind words sister.💕

Mon Dec 16 2024
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